Hi. I would really appreciate some help with a tough subject. My ex girlfriend has just broken up with me following our 12 week scan because she says she doesn't love me anymore. Briefly on the relationship, I'm not perfect, neither is she but we've always loved and cared for one another. Suddenly she said this and the same day she was arranging to meet up with a guy from work for a date and stayed over with him which happened 4 days later on my birthday.
The decision to try for a baby was hers and so I in no way forced that, she is talking about wanting independence and all I can think of is how much I want us to be a family, which is what I believed after 8 years and just moved in to our first 'owned' house was always going to be the case.
There are comments in places about hormones and she'll be back, but I can't help but feel that's a stereotypical bloke thing to say and ia basically just denial so I don't want to take notice of that without someone who really knows.
What I need to know how best to support her if she is gone for good. Do I contact her to make sure she's okay. Do I leave her completely alone and just hope she keeps me up to date on scan dates and midwive s appointments? Any advice would be invaluable because I need to throw myself in to fatherhood if I have to accept life without her. And I don't want to do the wrong things and anger her.
We broke up on okay terms in so much as I'm heartbroken but she's moved on. No majorly bad argument or threats.
I'd also appreciate advice on her unwillingness to attend antenatal classes. This is both our first child and she is the youngest in her family and never really cared for a baby. I want to be educated but I know the last thing I can do right now is say things that involve me disagreeing with her.
All advice appreciated. The relationship is for me to get over, but the baby needs us both to be good so all advice will be so unbelievably appreciated.
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Adlers1986 · 29/02/2016 17:36
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