My friend has been with her partner for about 3 years. They live together and get on brilliantly some times and seem to have similar outlooks on life / sense of humor etc. They could have it all....and yet.....
He is lazy and does nothing in the house unless she nags at him, he spends money like water on clothes, games etc and she has previously caught him flirting with other girls on facebook & via text messages. She's not perfect either of course, but would never contemplate being unfaithful and works much harder than him both at work, doing housework, decorating, etc.
They haven't been getting on well for a couple of months and she has had suspicions that he has been messaging & flirting with a particular girl. She confronted him and asked him if he had anything to tell her, but he denied any wrong doing. She moved out to give them space and they put on a counselling appointment. Now she has discovered that since she moved out, he has spent the night with the very girl she had suspicions about.
She is more angry than upset. Doesn't know if she wants to leave him or whether there is anything worth saving. She is nearing 40 and wants to have kids and thought she'd met the guy this would all happen with. I am trying to remain on the fence and let her make all her own decisions, but it is really hard when she asks me what I would do.
Am I being a good friend by trying to stay out of it and just provide a non-judgemental listening ear? Or would I be better giving her my honest opinion that he has a lazy fucker who would be a crap father anyway and would probably cheat on her again.
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Should I be more vocal with my thoughts on her relationship?
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HollowYourFart · 29/02/2016 12:42
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