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Why was I ever even bothered?

(9 Posts)
Feelverystrange209 Sun 28-Feb-16 20:31:54

So me and H split up last week after he admitted contacted a transgender escort! He said he's been stupid and made mistakes I'm sorry but that's just not an excuse for me! I've been at work everyday and I've literally hardly spoken to anyone, I've just been really sad and down and mortified by my life, until today. An electrician came into my place and work and we chatted for a good hour then he left and I noticed a bit of paper on the side with a note off him saying how he would love to see me again and I made his day with his number! There's no way I'm ready for that but I just felt great like s kind of 'fuck you I can do fine without you!'

nocabbageinmyeye Sun 28-Feb-16 20:42:49

Compliments are always lovely to get op, an ego boost I think, it's nice you enjoyed his company, you could text him and meet for coffee you don't have to head into anything romantic. Sorry your marriage hasn't worked out though, that's tough but I'm glad your feeling positive and happy, good for you

Feelverystrange209 Sun 28-Feb-16 20:53:59

Thank you I text him saying I hadn't long been out of a relationship and he said he understood and we could maybe meet for coffee or a drink on friends terms ? Oh I'm so unsure smile

nocabbageinmyeye Sun 28-Feb-16 21:15:30

He sounds like a nice guy, you should meet him, you have been honest so it's not like your leading him on, you've been through a tough time, it's always good to have friends around to cheer you up, just because he is a new friend and male doesn't mean you shouldn't meet him.

Can I ask, your dh, was it a shock/surprise or had you suspected something was wrong?

Owllady Sun 28-Feb-16 21:20:10

Well you were bothered someone paid interest in you because your husband has been such a shit head but I'd spend time to get used to this yourself, on your own terms and ignore the unprofessional, opportunistic electrician tbh confused

Feelverystrange209 Sun 28-Feb-16 21:28:11

I only found out when he messaged me by accident what he said didn't make sense so I looked on his phone and there were messages there, also he wasn't a nice person he likes to blame me for everything that I had never done wrong all his faults were my fault if you get me? I even thought about staying with him. Yes I suppose it was unprofessional and who knows he might not be as nice as I thought but don't worry I've been alone before! I know what it's like!

nocabbageinmyeye Sun 28-Feb-16 22:09:17

Do you think leaving someone your number is opportunist and unprofessional? In certain settings of course it is but op didn't seem to think so, and i can think of loads of settings where it wouldn't be at all. He didn't make her uncomfortable, it sounded like a friendly chat to me. I know loads of people who have met through their parts crossing in a proffesional /work capacity.

Anyhoo op, you seem to have your head screwed on, you know you've been through a tough time and your not looking for anything, you've told him so too so you were honest. I stand by a coffee if you wanted to wouldn't hurt and if you don't then it's always nice to get a compliment (I think anyway)

Feelverystrange209 Sun 28-Feb-16 22:20:22

Thank you I'm not really interested but it felt great to know I'm not a horrible ugly uninteresting person! I just felt a little kick I needed to know this wasn't my fault! I doubt I'll meet him as I want to sort my head out but I just felt really good and really good about myself!

suspiciousofgoldfish Sun 28-Feb-16 22:38:18

I don't have any advice on your transgender-loving husband, but the opportunistic electrician piqued my interest.....

I'm sure he was a very nice man, but let's look at the big picture - the cats been away for one week and you're getting hit on already?!

You must be a smokin hot fox. Go you! Don't waste all that pretty on the first bloke that pays you some attention. Go and hang around Idris Elbas neck of the woods for a start. Just saying.

If I got together with every man who gave me a come on, my dating history would read -
18 yo from the Co Op
A selection of builders
Slightly threatening men in white vans
The funny bloke who sells the Big Issue.
Disclaimer - absolutely nothing wrong with any of these jobs. But you get my point I hope.

I have kept this light hearted. I really am sorry about your husband thanks
It sounds as if you'll be just fine.

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