This might be long and rambling but here goes...
Been seein exdp for 18 months - however we've broken up more times than I can remember within that time, never lasting for longer than a month or two. After quite a break he got back in touch and promised he'd changed (he was uncommitted previously). We tried again and had made it to three months.
When we're together it's perfect, supportive and loving etc. but when he's away it all goes wrong. He cannot deal with any sort of criticism from me, if I say I need something different it usually ends in us breaking up. He has lots of femal friends who he confides in and vice versa. We booked a holiday together last year and because we had broken up he took somebody else in my place - think once in a lifetime holiday. He has never paid me back for the ticket he took away from me.
I have never met any of his family, there is always a reason - next week, next month etc etc but it's been too long now and I don't feel like we're any further forward than we were 18 months ago.
So I said as much to him and predictably we've split up. He becomes very nasty when this happens and I panic, try to take it back so we can go back to being together.
I don't think we have a future but am constantly second guessing myself - I love him and he has made a lot of effort this time. Some thing just feels off. I can't bear the thought of not being with him but actually I'm pretty unhappy and paranoid most of the time.
I guess I'm just looking for advice on how to get over him, keep away and stop being ever hpeful that he'll change properly?
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Oldname · 26/02/2016 10:09
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