I dread writing this out but have nowhere really to go and am looking for some clearer insight as I recognize I'm feeling hurt atm and maybe not thinking rationally.
My gf and I have been together for almost ten months. We have had a wonderful relationship and I'm completely in love.
There have been a few quarrels and they have all been about not seeing each other or feeling sad when one is away. Nothing major.
However, when she goes with her family, she's different. They do not accept her sexual orientation so our relationship is hidden. They are super religious and in the past have done some very controlling and abusive things to my gf when she lived with a partner.
Her parents are looking to move to the same town my gf lives in, which is two hours away from their home of over 40 years. My gf says nothing about this and will "address boundaries when they move here." My gf and I spend Saturday's together. This past Saturday, her mother called last minute to say she was looking at property in town and said my gf didn't need to come but, of course, wanted her to come. So my gf agreed to go to showings and out to lunch. Fine, no big deal. Then very last minute, her mother calls and changes the time to later and my gf just agrees to it even though it meant our Saturday evening would be spoiled! I expected my gf would come over after supper but she calls two hours later to say she is meeting up with her brother. No consideration for my evening. When I said I felt angry about her dumping on our day/evening, she became ANGRY with me and said I smother her. I can't even reason her reaction and how unfair and cruel it seems. She completely changes when it comes to her family. I can't believe she is angry with me. I am really furious, confused and hurt about her reaction. After three days of little communication and her sticking to this feeling smothered all of the sudden, I'm starting to doubt myself. Was I wrong to feel angry and slighted? Was I wrong to bring it up? Am I wrong in feeling like this isn't really about me or anything I did?
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Lifeisamarathon · 23/02/2016 15:16
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