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Someone tell me I'm ready

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Cherrycrystal Sun 21-Feb-16 13:34:47

I went NC with my ex just before Christmas, he was treating me so badly he didn't deserve my time..
I promised myself I'd delete him off social media within a month and I still haven't.
I keep telling myself I'm not ready although I've blocked his number I'm scared of the fall out when I remove him.
Can someone help me get the courage to do this?

IamlovedbyG Sun 21-Feb-16 13:35:54

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ImperialBlether Sun 21-Feb-16 13:36:19

What will he do if he realises he's blocked? Does he phone you anyway?

SoThatHappened Sun 21-Feb-16 13:36:48

Do it.

if you have already blocked his number, what will the fal out be if you block him on social media.

Blocking by definition means they cant contact you anymore. So what will the fall out be?

Do it!!!!

Cherrycrystal Sun 21-Feb-16 13:39:13

He sometimes texts me off other numbers asking me about things on my social media.
He's an arse who doesn't want me but doesn't want anyone else to have me.

IamlovedbyG Sun 21-Feb-16 13:41:23

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SoThatHappened Sun 21-Feb-16 13:43:01

Just leave it then if you like the contact. I get it...

WickedWax Sun 21-Feb-16 13:44:31

You need to figure out what you get by keeping him linked to your social media.

Because you get some kind of payoff or boost from it, otherwise you'd have deleted him by now.

What exactly do you mean by 'fall out', genuinely will there be any or is that the bullshit excuse you're using to keep him on there?

Do you get some kind of feeling of power or comfort knowing he's interested enough to keep tabs on you via social media?

Cherrycrystal Sun 21-Feb-16 13:51:57

I have gone NC iamloved he's the one who contacts me.
There's no payoff, there's nothing for me, I don't like him keeping tabs on me, I don't like the contact because it sends me ten steps back.
I just know he'll react badly and it will all come crashing down around me and I'm scared that he will make me feel like I'm in the wrong and I will apologise and go straight back to square one.

pocketsaviour Sun 21-Feb-16 14:00:40

When he texts you from unknown numbers previously, have you replied?

I assume he's using different numbers because you blocked his own phone number, is that right? Does he threaten you?

WickedWax Sun 21-Feb-16 14:01:45

I just know he'll react badly and it will all come crashing down around me

But what does that actually mean, what will that consist of?

Just block him. Next time he contacts you, tell him you don't wish to hear from him again and he persists you will involve the police.

ILikeUranus Sun 21-Feb-16 14:04:10

How would you apologise if you're no contact? Stop being ridiculous and just block and ignore him, you're thinking about this far too much.

Cherrycrystal Sun 21-Feb-16 14:07:40

pocket at first because I didn't know who it was, not any more.
He has a way of making me feel like I am in the wrong and I know all the hard work I've done will come crashing down, sorry for not being clear.
ilike that's actually just what I needed thank you I do need to hit the switch and do it.

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