Hi,
NC as outing.
Sorry if this is incoherent - it's hard to get down everything on my phone!
My DM died 12 months ago. Parents had been together since teens and married for nearly 40 years. 5 children - the youngest still at school - 16.
Since last year I know that my dad has been online and meeting and chatting to female 'friends'. I got the impression he was looking for companionship and was lonely. It seemed he was 'dipping his toes' so to speak as he has never dated and was only ever with mum.
His latest 'friend' seems more. Although when asked if she was his GF (as he has never told us about her) he denied it and said they were just friends although she really liked him. She is at his house a lot, he has met her kids, they go out a lot together and the other night, she apparently stayed over as he thought my DS was staying out.
He still hasn't confirmed relationship status, and to be honest, I am dreading going round and her being there as I will be unprepared and will feel awkward.
I just feel upset by it all. Not that I think it is too soon (who am I to judge that after never being in the situation) but more because I think it is inappropriate and upsetting to my little sister who still lives there and needs parenting effectively for a few more years. It is also annoying how is so secretive and won't just be upfront.
My mum always did most of the parenting with us and I appreciate it therefore must be hard for my dad. My sister is difficult (before DM died she was 'going off the rails', DMs death obviously exacerbated this). She lies, steals, misses school etc. yet my dad just throws more money at her and won't take any advice re. consequences. He has this attitude that now she is 16 then she now has to make her own bed and lie in it with regards to school, exams etc (we have had many meetings with school but nothing ever improves). I just think that he is being selfish, and fair enough if he wants to see someone, but why bring her to the house? My sister walked in on them kissing on the couch - I would be upset seeing that, never mind a 16 year old.
I probably need about 20 other threads to moan about his other behaviour but I just feel he is very selfish and is only thinking about his own needs. I think he always was but my mum would mask/compliment his personality. I feel disillusioned and like I don't know him any more.
Has anyone else been in this or a similar situation?
Thanks for getting this far and sorry if the thread is jumbled. My mind is just all over the place.
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