I hope that this is in the correct section - apols if not.
Here we go...
My elderly aunt (92) is being cared for by her neighbour (let's call him 'Freddy', 84) which on the face of it is great given that the aunt is quite a way away from family and to be fair he does go round every day and called the ambulance when she had a bad turn etc etc. So far so good. However as you might imagine this is where things start taking a different turn... aunt has changed her Will to leave the majority of her estate to 'Freddy'. Again while it may put a few noses out of joint, I know it's her money/estate, she can do what she likes. The issue is it, potentially, then becomes a little more murky. Not only has 'Freddy' got power of attorney and is now trying to stop her family from talking to/seeing her ("she's upset and doesn't want to talk to/see you. I've got P.o.A. and I don't want to talk to you"), again not proof positive and it could be genuine. She does appear to be confused as it was she who told my mum that she was changing her Will and that he had Power of Attorney and then denied it (though does appear to be true). There are other things she has forgotten or has back tracked on, even though up until recently she was of sound mind. Freddy seems to have moved into her home, even though his own home is only a few doors away. The issue is that he has got previous with this (which was known), he became friendly with a widow, looked after her and was left a healthy sum and my family has now found out he'd actually done this to yet another widow prior to this and had a major falling out with that late lady's family... unfortunately, we have no names and no idea how to trace anyone connected to these ladies.
Now I am not and have never expected to gain from her Will, but my mum (86) is her only surviving sibling and is pretty upset that her sister has put her trust in this man who she has known as a neighbour for many years but not known him well until around two years ago when his previous lady friend died. Because he is 84 years old himself, we are aware that if her estate passes to him, it won't be too long before it passes to his next of kin, his two children, who we don't know from Adam. My aunt has quite a few nephews and nieces, as well as her sister (my mum), but does not have a husband (long ago passed away) or children. Now she has fallen out with her only remaining sibling "I told you in confidence", except it was a niece she told, not her sibling) and these suspicions are floating around like a bad smell. The question obviously is what, if anything, can be done. We think that aunt is fully compos mentis but who knows....
Any advice?
Apologies for long post......
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92 year old aunt's "friend"
Spickle · 12/02/2016 10:04
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