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Can anybody recommend an easily digestible book on codependency please?

(11 Posts)
PacificDogwod Tue 09-Feb-16 21:46:51

I just wrote a long post but deleted it as I am looking for advice for a situation that is not mine, so will not go into details. Sorry to be so cloak and dagger about it - v attention-seeking, I know.

I'd really appreciate any suggestions for reading re. co-dependency, whether as an actually physical book or online.
thanks

SavageBeauty73 Tue 09-Feb-16 22:33:54

Codependent No More - Melody Beattie

I read it after I left my alcoholic ex. Wish I had read it years ago!

PacificDogwod Tue 09-Feb-16 22:35:53

Thank you, SavageBeauty. Will have a look thanks

pippistrelle Tue 09-Feb-16 22:40:50

The co-dependent in my life recommends that book too: he describes it as 'the gold standard'.

PacificDogwod Tue 09-Feb-16 22:44:32

The 'addiction' in question is OCD - would it still be appropriate, do you think??

pippistrelle Tue 09-Feb-16 22:50:29

Yes, my tame co-dependent says.

PacificDogwod Tue 09-Feb-16 22:53:58

smile

I don't know why 'tame co-dependent' sounds like something small, soft and furry to me? confusedgrin

But thanks, to you and them.

PacificDogwod Tue 09-Feb-16 22:54:15

Him, in fact thanks

pippistrelle Tue 09-Feb-16 22:58:22

In true co-dependent style, he is glad to have been able to help because that must mean you like him now.
smile

PacificDogwod Tue 09-Feb-16 23:00:49

Tell him, I do.

Oh, feck, am I know enabling him?! confused

This is such a mind-fuck tbh - I am trying to help somebody close to me heart get out of a co-dependent situation, but I am not doing a good job of it, am I? Even just understanding it...

pippistrelle Tue 09-Feb-16 23:09:11

It's a minefield, but people can get out of tricky situations, and at least start to understand their own motivations for getting into them in the first place.

Good luck to you with helping your loved one.

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