By nature I consider myself calm and reasonable and our immediate family life (DH and kids) is pretty happy, relaxed and uneventful - i.e. low drama. I have been on here before trying to cope when around my ILs however. We live a long way from them through choice. Originally it was DH who insisted he did not want to be in the same city, after 20 years I am of the same opinion.
We are going to visit them for a weekend in a couple of weeks and in fact will not be around them very much because the Saturday we will be with his cousin. But already I am starting to feel anxious.
PILS are divorced and MIL likes to try and make her two children parent her. She is in an almost constant state of chaos and drama. If DH does not do what she wants it is naturally my fault as he is her Golden Boy. My FIL refused to acknowledge my existence for at least the first 6 years of our marriage. Now I do not bother to contact them and keep everything to a bare minimum and let DH deal. They have never attempted to get to know me, my family or background it's as if I just dropped from the sky and everyone just carried on.
After all this time I wish I knew how to handle the situation better but if I could I would never see them at all.
If you have any thoughts and advice please go ahead.
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I need help coping with the stress of my ILs
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FrancisdeSales · 09/02/2016 17:11
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