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just me being insecure or more to it?

(16 Posts)
justonesherryformedicinalpurpo Tue 09-Feb-16 13:16:07

My friend is very slutty. She's a great friend but aside from that she dresses like an absolute slut. Always has massive push up bras on and cleavage out, legs out. The lot if she can get awag with it.

my first bf complimented her profile pic (on msn) of her in bra and knickers only way back and I guess it's never left me.

I've never really felt that my DP who I have a 1yo with and another on the way has done anything to add to this paranoia but today I went on his fb on my phone. I wanted to see if his colleague had messaged him. Long story but his phone was off on his break and I always worry he's had an accident cycling to work and once when he called in sick his colleague had messaged him checking the same. So I thought I might find a message today. Putting that irrelevant piece of information aside I went onto his search button and it brings up people he has searched.

completely innocent but last week on the same day he searched my friend and then myself.

It's brought all this insecurity back and I can't helo but wonder why he searched her. She has a lot of bikini pics. No underwear ones anymore! But still lots of bikini pics and pics of her with her boobs or bum half out.

part of me thinks it can't be anything seedy as that's just ridiculous and surely he'd perv on women on google if that's what he was into. I mean she's got a good bod but nothing spectacular and if anything I think the attention she gets is purely based on her choice or lack of clothing.

but there is still that side of me that thinks he was looking at her to have a perv...

what do you think?

oh and a couple of days before that he searched some random girls name. No profile came up so I'm guessing he couldn't find who he was looking for but I'm still mystified. He works in an all male job. Comes home straight from work. And we're always together at weekends - were always been the types who prefer to chill indoors or eat out. Even more so since LO arrived. So I can't see it being someone he's met....

sorry for typos if any.

HotNatured Tue 09-Feb-16 13:36:29

hmm

justonesherryformedicinalpurpo Tue 09-Feb-16 13:41:15

I'm being completely irrational aren't I!

FellOutOfBedTwice Tue 09-Feb-16 13:46:04

If my DH went on my phone right now he would see that the last person I searched was his good looking and very funny best friend. I did it because I wanted to check what his neice wanted for her birthday and had sent him a FB message. If he had the same mind set as you he would be on the verge of dumping me. Unless you've got any other reason to doubt him, this sounds very daft.

justonesherryformedicinalpurpo Tue 09-Feb-16 13:48:50

Yes I see what you mean but there literally is no explanation of any sort like yours for him to go onto hers. They never speak!

Damn my insecurities. I'm going to forget about it.

Costacoffeeplease Tue 09-Feb-16 14:04:38

Slut, slutty, really? confused and this is your friend you're talking about?

justonesherryformedicinalpurpo Tue 09-Feb-16 14:11:19

I meant it in a state of undress obviously.

Costacoffeeplease Tue 09-Feb-16 14:13:40

Well maybe you should have said that and I, and possibly others, would have carried on reading

justonesherryformedicinalpurpo Tue 09-Feb-16 14:22:09

No you're right. I stand by that I only meant it to describe how she dresses but perhaps it wasn't the nicest way to word it or start a thread.

justonesherryformedicinalpurpo Tue 09-Feb-16 14:25:25

If I'm honest maybe I unintentionally meant it.

She's recently been a sleeping with a married man who has a baby and I have taken it rather sensitively especially now I have my own baby. So much so that I haven't spoken to her in a while and am reconsidering our friendship. That amongst other factors.

That's irrelevant of course. Just voicing my thoughts.

TheNaze73 Tue 09-Feb-16 14:34:06

Think you're completely over reacting to be honest. All blokes look at other women, it's how we're wired but, he's not acting on it, so you should cut him some slack. The ones that say they don't are lying

justonesherryformedicinalpurpo Tue 09-Feb-16 14:56:42

Yes I guess you're right. Think I'm just extra sensitive because it's my friend. Makes me think he'd like me to dress like that but I know he wouldn't.

Paranoia forgotten!

Iwonderif Tue 09-Feb-16 15:03:03

It's your pregnancy hormones OP....they are horrendous at times. Caused me a great deal of insecurities. Being PG takes it out of us it really does. flowers

justonesherryformedicinalpurpo Tue 09-Feb-16 15:11:42

Thank you Iwonderif yes that is very true!

TheNaze73 Tue 09-Feb-16 15:16:32

You should dress for only one person. You

justonesherryformedicinalpurpo Tue 09-Feb-16 15:18:07

Oh yes of course! I'd never dress any way but how l like. Just makes me wonder if he would prefer it. Not that I would.

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