so after trying to be nice and civil and everything with my ex who walked out on me at 32 weeks pregnant and our 2 year old son.
I have had enough, he last seen our son on Thursday and was supposed to let me know if he wanted to see our son before next Sunday and he hadn't bothered letting me know.
then yesterday I was in town with some work friends having drinks ( well they where drinking) and we ended up in a restaurant and who walked in an hour later my ex and the ow!
well I thought I would have lost my stuff but I didn't instead I just went over to them and said hi and just said to them so much for nothing happening with her and that I'm not going to play nice anymore and that it's all done legal now!
he literally looked at me like I was a bit of dirt on his shoe!
but it was great to finally put a face to the ow!
so I have made a lawyers appointment for first thing tomorrow to get everything sorted!
I called his parents to say I have moved 90% of my stuff out the house and will get the big stuff later in the week and all they where worried about was that I didn't take the couches. not that their heavily pregnant ex daughter in law was moving all the stuff on her own!
so that's me no more mrs miss girl!
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hurtandconfued2016 · 07/02/2016 19:55
I'm sorry you had to go through this
What a piece of scum to walk out on you heavily pregnant and on your son too. No good man would do this.
As for that ow, says she's equally scum to think going out and proud with someone who has left their wife in this position. They deserve each other.
As for his parents reaction, well the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.
I think you are well rid of the lot of them.
Just take each day as it comes, there will be good and bad especially now with all the emotions of a new baby. Do you have rl support op? Do you have someone to be with you for the birth and to take care of ds?
You are a strong woman, even if you don't think you are. Your Dc is blessed to have one parent who did right by them. 
Funny you mention the police. My ex BIL is a copper and did something very similar to my SIL when she was 7 months pregnant. She's doing amazingly these days and he's just going from one disaster to another. Karma.
Sorry about your mum. Sounds like you've got so much on your plate.
Christ, what an absolute piece of shit, and what sort of woman wants to even consider going out with a man that would behave in such a way? They deserve each other.
I really feel for you op 
he still wants to be at the birth :/ me being as stupid and in love as I am is thinking maybe if he sees me bring our daughter into the world he will come back and realise what a mistake he has made
Your life isn't a Hollywood movie and this isn't going to happen.
If you allow him to be present at the birth he'll have a grandstand view of your intimate bits and he'll then swan off off to toast the new arrival with his ow, with whom he's no doubt already planning to have more dc, while you are left crying over your newborn.
Scrape what's left of your self-respect off the floor and start getting goddam angry. As his equally unfeeling family (apples don't fall far from trees) have told you "he's moved on" and you're best advised to follow through with what you said to him in the restaurant.
If he wants to see ds he can do so on days when he's NOT working as your son deserves to have quality time with his df and not be palmed off to other family members.
He doesn't get to be present at the birth of dd, nor does he get to go with you to the Registry Office for his name to be put on her birth certificate. If he wants to see her it will be at your convenience i.e at a time and place of your choosing. Please note that not naming him on the birth cert won't prevent you from claiming maintenance for her.
Not being married to this utter scumbag gives you an advantage. From now on you call the shots and don't demean yourself by begging for crumbs from his table. Fwiw, a man who believes he 'can't have a life because he has no money' is unlikely to shell out on court fees in order to have contact with his dc and the chances are he'll become an absentee parent once he realises that you mean business and he doesn't get to pick and choose when he has ds.
You'll make a much better life for you and your dc without this unprincipled piece of gobshite in it and I have no doubt that in time you will come to realise that you are better off without him.
Concentrate on your family and support your dm as much as you can. These are for her with my sincere best wishes for a successful outcome from her treatment. And this 
is for you to enjoy after your dd's birth with those who genuinely care for you keeping you company throughout an unstressful labour.
PS If you can take the couches I suggest you do so and donate them to Oxfam if you don't want them 
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