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would it bother you if your dh still..

(15 Posts)
sugarVenom Sun 07-Feb-16 16:40:17

looked up his ex regularly on social media to look at their profile?

Madbengalmum Sun 07-Feb-16 16:41:43

No, not if i trusted him.

mintoil Sun 07-Feb-16 16:42:43

I would not like it at all, no.

TheTigerIsOut Sun 07-Feb-16 16:43:37

I have some exs in my Facebook, sometimes we communicate, sometimes we see each other updates. Not a torch in sight here, so no worries.

I think that unless you have any other concerns you shouldn't worry about it.

LookAtMeGo Sun 07-Feb-16 16:44:09

Do they have DC together?

sugarVenom Sun 07-Feb-16 16:51:12

No, they don't have DC together. We have newborn DC, so maybe its just hormonal that it's playing on my mind.

He mentioned to me that he had looked, so i don't think i need to worry.

TheTigerIsOut Sun 07-Feb-16 16:51:37

It does however bothers me when the partner of my estranged exh searches me in LinkedIn. I wish I could put an ad up saying "honestly, he's yours to keep, we don't want him or like him, he is totally yours!"

MatrixReloaded Sun 07-Feb-16 16:53:45

I wouldn't like it.

GnocchiGnocchiWhosThere Sun 07-Feb-16 16:55:24

Yes. But he was still in love with her for at least the first year of our relationship, and he made a huge point of comparing me unfavourably to her, so I'm very sensitive to that.

It's normal and not a red flag to look up an ex from time to time though, so depends what you mean by "regularly". I check up on my most recent ex sporadically, but wouldn't touch him with a barge pole nowadays.

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BillBrysonsBeard Sun 07-Feb-16 17:08:11

Every now and then no, I do the same. But regularly indicates more than nosiness I think.

Aridane Sun 07-Feb-16 17:12:10

Er - I thought everyone did that!blush

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sun 07-Feb-16 17:14:32

Dh still sees his ex, and is in contact with his ex via text/phone regularly. This has been over a couple of decades.

Is doesnt, and has never bothered me. She is no threat.

Joysmum Sun 07-Feb-16 17:39:05

I've looked up my exes. It good to know things never worked out with them and have a 'HA HA' at where they are now compared to how I am grin

Tangoandcreditcards Sun 07-Feb-16 17:46:56

Um... I've got a newborn and have had to fill long hours in the middle of the night with an unsettled baby and an iPad for company. I may have spent some of that time looking up exes on social media out of nothing but idle curiosity...

So no, it would be hypocritical of me to judge my partner for the same behaviour.

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