Hello all - I am feeling very hurt and upset and need a sanity check on this before I have a talk with my boyfriend tonight.
Basically: my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. I think he is fantastic, we get on really well, we rarely argue and I was certain that we were on the same page about our relationship as we honest about what we want our futures to look like, how we invision our lives together, etc.
Two weeks ago I had to move out of my current flat because of problems with my flatmate (she is incredibly messy to the point that we got mice because she keeps food and rubbish in her room and never cleans up). My boyfriend told me I could move in with him so I have been staying with him. At this same time, the company I was working for went bankrupt and I lost my job.
My current lease is up on my flat on 1 March - my boyfriends lease is up on the same date. I had suggested to my boyfriend that we sublet a friends flat for two months together as neither of us had a new place to rent sorted. He said he would think about it. I also told him how stressed and scared I am because I don't have a job (but I do have enough in savings to cover rent if he and I share a place for a month or two) and I can't afford rent my own place until I get a new job. I also am not from where we live and don't have any family or friends near by so I don't have the option to stay with them until I get back on my feet (although I am very independent so this isn't normally an issue)
Today my boyfriend was out running errands and sent me a text saying that he would be out for the afternoon because he is going to view a flat that he is thinking of renting with two of his friends. I was shocked to hear that as the last time we talked about it I thought he was considering living with me temporarily. I am feeling hurt and scared because he clearly doesn't seem concerned that I don't have a place to live nor do I have the funds to sign a new lease by myself.
I really don't know what to think or feel about this. Am I being selfish by expecting him to consider my situation?
I just feel like if it was reversed and he was suddenly without a job and was going to be without a place to live in a couple of weeks I would go out of my way to make sure he was okay.
Thoughts and advice would be very much appreciated. Thanks!
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Is this my boyfriends way of letting me know he doesn't care?
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ElisaBlue · 06/02/2016 22:42
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