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I've upset him, now what?

(10 Posts)
ballsedup Fri 05-Feb-16 20:01:24

I regret it and now I'm in the doghouse. He's not answering his phone to me. I'd asked him to try viagra as his erection wasn't strong enough and he was keen to try. After half a dozen goes with it I started to feel blue about it because I felt our lovemaking was less loving than it used to be & had become more about him shagging hard for hours on end. So I asked him yesterday not to take it again because it made me feel more like a 'call-girl' than a girlfriend. He was quick to point out he'd only done it because I'd asked. I didn't mean to hurt him but it seems I have and now he's not speaking to me. We were supposed to be together tonight and he's cancelled by txt and isn't accepting my calls. I feel horrible sad It really is my fault not his. He was only trying to please me. Is there anything I can do to make it better?

RedRainRocks Fri 05-Feb-16 20:09:57

Male pride around sexual prowess is often delicate. You basically accused him of treating you like a sex worker - if he has any decency at all, that's going to make feel really, really, shitty.

That said, who wants to spend naked time feeling like a warm, blow up doll?

How long have you been together? And do you think it's really an effect of the blue pill or more a reflection of the current state of your relationship?

ballsedup Fri 05-Feb-16 20:24:22

It's definately the blue pill. He's become more urgent since taking it, just wanting to fuck and fuck and fuck without coming. sad We were really cozy before he started taking it - at my suggestion. But that was because he was always at half-mast.

ballsedup Fri 05-Feb-16 20:58:31

Thank goodness, we've made up. He answered his phone, I apologised. smile

Angieyy1 Fri 05-Feb-16 21:00:04

Men are very sensitive when it comes to anything sexual that has to do with them. He may feel very embarrassed at the moment and hurt himself ..sorry I don't know how long you have been together ? I'm guessing you have already sent him a message, maybe just give him some space

Hissy Fri 05-Feb-16 22:33:09

How long have you been together?

Does he regularly not talk to you if he's upset?

ballsedup Fri 05-Feb-16 22:35:55

This is the first time this has happened but I'm watching this space...

niceupthedance Sat 06-Feb-16 14:34:27

Did you know Viagra has the effect you describe? Hours-long erections before orgasm? It is well known for it.

Slowdecrease Sun 07-Feb-16 11:32:23

I think its human to have delicate feelings about sex and sexual performance, not male or female. At least you've apologised and he's taken in, be a bit more mindful next time.

MissyMaker Sun 07-Feb-16 11:37:49

Now that you're talking again, I think that you need to really talk

There's clearly an issue with his performance, which isn't satisfying you. This can be overcome by things other than viagra.

Take this opportunity to clear the air and look at ways you can fix this together.

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