There is a lot of background to this situation.
My DS25 called me last week after 4 years of him not wanting contact, in tears because he had split up from his girlfriend of 10 years.
We talked for hours, he said he was very sorry for what happened and he needed me.
I said i will help in anyway i can and would be free to see him and talk on the phone if needed.
Anyway we met up and it was great to see him.
He said he didn't see me because his girlfriend hates me and thinks i phoned social services 4 years ago and said their house was a tip. (I didn't call SS and my DS now realises this.)
My DS now wants me to meet with his girlfriend and talk, I am ok with this i think and will do it to support my Ds but i know she has said some really nasty things about me.
I have been very careful to not say anything negative about her because I knew they would get back together at some point and i do think she has put up with alot from my DS.
I can feel my anxiety creeping back and i don't like it.
She is the mother of my grandchildren and i would like to have a cordial relationship with her so i can see my GC again. (she broke my heart when she said I couldn't see them again)
I also feel i need to protect my self and my other children (12 and 15) from going through the same heartbreak again.
My 12 yr old was devastated when contact stopped in 2012.
It does help that we live 60 miles apart.
I'm sorry its long.
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I've seen my son again after 4 years, Help me stay in contact with him.
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ihatethecold · 04/02/2016 11:55
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