My DM lives about an hour and a half - 2 hours away from us, we probably see them on average once a month for a day or weekend, we speak on the phone at least once a week and text in between. I guess I'd like to see more of them but the distance plus the fact that DH and I both work full time and have the usual commitments outside means it's just not really practical. Weekends are full of ferrying teen DD around, shopping, house stuff and trying to have a bit of time to ourselves.
DM makes it obvious she wishes she saw us more though. When DD was younger and I worked part time or at home we did meet more regularly but I see it as a natural progression that we can't so much now, most people go back to work full time when their kids are older don't they? DM and SD moved recently but within the same area, I understand why as they have friends and hobbies there but I can't help thinking if she was that bothered about seeing us more she'd have moved nearer. My Dad lives a similar distance away, we see him a bit less but he never seems to mind.
I do sympathise because I see DD growing up and know I'll miss her when I dont see her as often but I hope I'll let her lead her life and that when she sees us it will be because she wants to not that I've guilt tripped her into it.
Like most working mums I'm trying hard to please everyone and juggling work with family life - close and extended - in a way DM has never really done. It's annoyed me a bit that she's making me feel bad about something I can't really change but it's made me wonder now if I should be doing more.
How do other people manage with ageing parents, kids, work and trying to have a life?
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Pressure to see family more making me feel really guilty
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TwentyOneGuns · 04/02/2016 07:14
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