We've been married 8 years, 2 kids aged 3 and 6. I posted on here for advice before Christmas when I found messages on his phone. We did try to work it out initially but so much has come out since and I don't feel like I can try anymore. I don't want to.
We have agreed in theory that the kids and I would stay in the house, we will have to re-mortgage for a longer period so that I/we can afford the repayments, and remove his name from the house once he moves out.
I think we agree that he will have the children 2-3 nights a week (one weekend day and night each, but we'll have to decide which end of the week is best - any tips? What works for you?
How do we work out maintenance? He says he doesn't want to just pay the minimum. I think people pay 15% per child (based on something I probably mis read somewhere)! So if say if he takes home about £3000 a month would it be just under £1000 - is that right?
We also need to transfer all the bills in his or joint names to just mine, and take his name off the joint account where we pay them from.
Am I forgetting anything? Any advice?
If we agree all the above stuff, do we need a solicitor to divorce? Can we just agree the details ourselves and just pay the court fee?
I'd be so grateful for any advice. Thank you.
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ILikeUranus · 01/02/2016 10:49
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