My marriage of 6 years ended last May when my daughter and myself were forced to leave the marital home after my hubby started drinking and self harming. Our marriage was over long before that and it has always been pretty lonely on my part. I took control of the whole situation and found us all somewhere else to live, my husband has a flat and I have a 2 bedroom place. He is much better and sorted himself out with my help. We share the care of our daughter who is four years old. She is happy and settled with things now and so is my husband yet I am suddenly really struggling with it all. I don't want him back at all and I don't feel anything for him anymore but I can't shake off the feeling of guilt for our daughter and the feeling that our family life ( although it was non existent to a degree) has gone. I'm suffering terrible anxiety attacks and feeling low and tearful. it's been a tough year and perhaps I need to cut myself some slack but why can't I just get on with it now. i feel like this is what I wanted but now it's happened it's all so strange. I've started dating a lovely guy who absolutely adores me but I still can't shake off the anxiety of the marriage ending even though it was the best outcome for all of us. How long will I feel like this? I guess there's no rule book on it but advice would be grateful received!!
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Advice please! Separated last year but still struggling......
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Mantwab · 28/01/2016 23:14
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