So my relationship with DH has been a bit unsteady for the last year - started when he said he changed his mind about having children (he did, I always have not - we discussed before marriage). We decided we needed to refocus, I was having the whole am-I-being-selfish-for-not-wanting-children argument in my mind again and re-examined that (and discovered mumsnet in the process!), tried to find ways to talk to him about his feelings or reconnect (still no on the children, though) - and then today he says he wants to be alone to figure things out. He doesnt feel like I do (I'm always loving towards him - he's been a bit cold - and am happy with our lives continuing the way they are - we have a nice life) and I say fine, let's figure out how to separate, if you want children you should try to have them and find happiness etc etc.
Then - by chance, just a few hours ago, I find an email he's sent to a woman saying he's done it and is feeling unsteady and sad etc - turns out he's been having an affair! I mean, I've been trying with him with the best of intentions and have been sad (and guilty) about the fact he's not happy but was willing to accept that people change and our ideas of our futures changed and it's all just a stupid AFFAIR! I mean, I've read enough of these threads to know, but I've been literally, questioning the meaning of life and trying to make him happy and make everything work and wondering what I could do and all it is is a stupid affair. Cannot believe it. What an idiot.
Rant over.
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Wow, just wow...
happyanddappy · 24/01/2016 22:08
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