Long story, been married for 5 yrs but together for 12. Things were good to start, we did lots together and got along well but over the years things have changed and got worse. My husband loves to go out drinking and in the past has done it very often and to excess despite me being unhappy about it. I then found out he'd been using other substances and went mad obviously. He often lies rather than tell me the truth if it's something he thinks I won't like as he says he can't talk to me. There have been times when we've split up and discussed divorce but we've always ended up back together as we do love each other but are very different people. Since having our daughter he hasn't gone out that often but has been working really long hours meaning I've done nearly all the childcare, housework etc and have had no time for myself. Our daughter is a terrible sleeper, hates her cot and as a result I have moved into the spare room where she can sleep with me (husband is a smoker) so we have no alone time as a couple. This evening husband has come in and said he had a deal for me, he was going to the pub (whether I liked it or not) and in return he would finish work early tomorrow and look after our daughter so I can have some time to myself. I feel like looking after his own child when he's not at work is not a deal for me but should be something he wants to do! And I'm so fed up of the lack of respect of him doing whatever he wants regardless of my feelings when I don't behave that way at all. I know I've created the situation by giving him many second chances in the past but now we have a child I'm torn between staying for her and leaving so she doesn't grow up thinking that's how a husband should treat his wife?
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