Sorry I mean from starting the freedom programme and seeing all abusive ways I feel we're not abusive people and Mr wrong isn't him but we have both been abusive at times.No social services haven't said I have to choose him or the children but I can honestly tell you all if they did both me and their dad would accept and agree to that because they are our priority always.We look after them together he's very hands on I'm not scared controlled financially or otherwise.During our 8.5 year relationship we have had a few bad arguments where either he or I have lashed out be that from pushing and shoving to a slap.The previous time I had him charged as on that occasion I felt he needed to know if I felt at risk I would call for help he got charged with common assault and got a fine that was around 6years ago.The last was early this year being a slap followed by a scuffle during which I got a rubber burn on my face,my daughter 11 called the police and said mom and dad are fighting,she gave me the phone as we'd parted by then him having left the house I dealt with the call then waited for the officers after sorting the children out.When they came they said I'd been stamped on from the mark on my cheek and asked if I had I said no explained what had happened that no I don't recall a stamp and no I didn't pass out he kept saying it was a bad one never seen one so bad etc etc he called paramedics and he asked if I wanted to go hospital I said no o was fine then the officer starts telling me how it's bad and if I didn't I'd risk putting my kids at risk if they had to find me so I went,sat in hospital for hours with him keep looking at me saying how bad my face was.I spoke to women's aid worker and answered her questions n told her some things I now in clear mind know was definitely one sided I didn't say what I'd done to him.I did a statement (didn't know I could say no) and pretty much Said he must of a marks there I didn't really read it but did say no o wouldn't want to go to court and I know j won't have to as he won't deny his part j know he won't asked if I was scared said no bcz this isn't normal he doesn't make me feel scared we had a fight.the social worker came to have a chat after I'd asked on the phone in the initial contact with them what helps available for the dad,he was actually very nice and put me at ease about the whole situation told me about the freedom programme and how it helps both sides if both want to sort things and helps me see how to spot potential red flags that sounded amazing as all I'd seen all week was bias towards men being abusers and to bin them nothing about a couple who want to sort their issues.He said he would speak with my x to get his attitude before confirming supervised by a relative access and said during the conversation my x had told him bed arranged himself private councilling.We have had N awful lot of negative things to deal with during our time his family fully disowned him bcz of my skin colour then joined with the x to keep his child away from him it's like they all died and he's not dealt with it.He's a good man and a brilliant father to our children.He's everything on the Mr right list minus one and the Mr wrong only 3 things nobody's perfect and I don't want it but having had this happen has just made me realise how much I do love him and how good he actually is with both me and our children.I feel it's better if we can work through it putting it right to show our children we weren't being as we should and we were both wrong but problems are for owning and facing not walking away from.I want to know if I am to expect a report at all and if said report would have to wait until after courts dealt with and if there's anyone else who's been in my position and had there family improve through freedom and better relationships course. The police called me after interview saying he did admit all apart from the stamp but accepted it must have been by him but as result of our scuffle not intentionally but they said they didn't believe him bcz if the mark and we're charging abh which I don't get as from the terms online it falls into common assault and as I said it didn't bruise just faded from what looked like a rubber burn to nothing no bruising of any shade spreading out as bruises do the sw even agreed it's a graze as did the hospital report