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Is DH a drama-lover or pulling away??

(12 Posts)
CostaRicanBananas Thu 21-Jan-16 12:02:06

All was blissfully perfect until yesterday evening. It was my DS' birthday and we took him out for a meal. For some reason, DH spent most of the evening on a mission to bicker but I chose to ignore it so that we could enjoy the celebration. This was until he decided to give DS a huge lecture on why he shouldn't have yet another shower when we got back home from the restaurant. How crazy does it sound? Without going into DS' shower habits, there was nothing wrong or excessive about it and I pointed out to DH that it wasn't a big deal - at this point, DS had already agreed with DS to put an end to it, which again I felt was very unfair. We got home, DS hardly spoke to me and then proceeded to do his 'usual' and camped out on the sofa for the night. I absolutely breaks my heart how casually he does this and for no real reason whatsoever. DS' whole reaction was so out of proportion, it was like a slap in the face and selfish as we should have been able to end the evening on a high note. He came into bed this morning, probably so that DS wouldn't see him on the sofa, but didn't try to hug me or anything. We normally make our way to our respective work place together but I just got ready and left. Not a word from him. This was the man who only a few hours earlier was telling me how he loved me more than anyone else in the world.

NOT trying to excuse his behaviour, DS is having issues at work and money is VERY tight at the moment. I could see that he wasn't all the comfortable with me paying for our dinner last night, but that's hardly my fault and he could have suggested an alternative to going to that particular restaurant.

What really baffles me here is how blasé he is about us not sleeping together, not to mention bringing a whole new level of drama and conflict to our relationship - in my view, totally unnecessary.

SecondMrsAshwell Thu 21-Jan-16 17:12:35

Sorry, I'm a bit confused. Who spent the night on the sofa? And who is being dramatic? DH or DS?

NameNameName Thu 21-Jan-16 17:14:30

I think you've swapped DH & DS a few times here, its confusing.

TurnOffTheTv Thu 21-Jan-16 17:15:41

Too many DS and not enough DH. I can't work out who has done what.

BolshierAryaStark Thu 21-Jan-16 17:24:07

So if it's DH's usual to sleep on the sofa how was everything 'blissfully happy' until yesterday evening? I'm confused...

BolshierAryaStark Thu 21-Jan-16 17:24:57

Sorry blissfully happy

BolshierAryaStark Thu 21-Jan-16 17:25:25

Bloody hell, grrrr blissfully perfect

CostaRicanBananas Thu 21-Jan-16 17:25:38

Oh my goodness, sorry!!

All was blissfully perfect until yesterday evening. It was my DS' birthday and we took him out for a meal. For some reason, DH spent most of the evening on a mission to bicker but I chose to ignore it so that we could enjoy the celebration. This was until he decided to give DS a huge lecture on why he shouldn't have yet another shower when we got back home from the restaurant. How crazy does it sound? Without going into DS' shower habits, there was nothing wrong or excessive about it and I pointed out to DH that it wasn't a big deal - at this point, DS had already agreed with DH to put an end to it, which again I felt was very unfair. We got home, DS hardly spoke to me and then proceeded to do his 'usual' and camped out on the sofa for the night. I absolutely breaks my heart how casually he does this and for no real reason whatsoever. DH's whole reaction was so out of proportion, it was like a slap in the face and selfish as we should have been able to end the evening on a high note. He came into bed this morning, probably so that DS wouldn't see him on the sofa, but didn't try to hug me or anything. We normally make our way to our respective work place together but I just got ready and left. Not a word from him. This was the man who only a few hours earlier was telling me how he loved me more than anyone else in the world.

NOT trying to excuse his behaviour, DH is having issues at work and money is VERY tight at the moment. I could see that he wasn't all the comfortable with me paying for our dinner last night, but that's hardly my fault and he could have suggested an alternative to going to that particular restaurant.

What really baffles me here is how blasé he is about us not sleeping together, not to mention bringing a whole new level of drama and conflict to our relationship - in my view, totally unnecessary.

And not a word from DH all day...which is so sad

TurnOffTheTv Thu 21-Jan-16 17:29:28

So he bitched at your Son (assuming not his) ON HIS BIRTHDAY about taking a poxy shower, then got in a huff? How old is your son?

Hillfarmer Thu 21-Jan-16 17:31:29

I think you need to start this thread again OP coz it's still not clear who is on the sofa:

DS hardly spoke to me and then proceeded to do his 'usual' and camped out on the sofa

???

CostaRicanBananas Thu 21-Jan-16 17:39:19

oops... DH was on the sofa last night.

And yes, I did say afterwards that the whole thing had been pretty absurd. I have no idea what got into him but he was in a bitchy mood towards me most of the evening and it just seemed to escalate at that point. So much for true love.

Glastokitty Fri 22-Jan-16 01:32:38

Sounds like your husband is a joy sucking asshole. He had a go at your son about having a shower on his birthday, and then sulked and slept on the sofa. He needs to grow the fuck up.

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