We met when my son was 3, and married when my son was 8. My husband is absolutely great - most of the time. When he and I are alone he's perfect, but when it comes to 'our' son he's very impatient and quick to anger. He's big on rules and discipline, like his own Dad was with him. DS is 16, and has been giving us problems, poor exam results, smoking, both weed and cigarettes, ...so I'm not under any illusions, but he is essentially a good kid, great fun and very bright, just not applying himself. My son and I are very alike in temperament, we don't like confrontation, aggression or dominant behaviour - all of which come to the fore in my husbands dealings with DS. DS responds to talking, discussion, understanding. I feel caught in the middle, DS certainly warrants boundaries and guidance, but its DHs delivery I can't stand...he's never physical but he gets so ANGRY, shouting and screaming...it really upsets both me and DS, to the point of tears from both of us. I cant talk to him about Ds without us arguing - he says I always defend DS, I say he always attacks. Its like its DHs way or no way, we find ourselves saying "We'll have to ask DH first" before we do things or make plans and now I'm reading this as I'm typing it it sounds a bit like bullying. I love DH but he's so .....strict. He has nothing in common with DS and they do nothing together, never have done, but DH didn't with his own Dad - who he loves dearly by the way. In a low moment DS told me he hates DH and doesn't want to be in the same house. DS biological Dad is on the scene but with a family of his own. Feels like its me and DS against DH and I'm getting worried for my relationship with DH. DH has a history of depression and is on anti depressants which really do the job, but DS is now saying he's depressed too and wants to see a doctor......I'm so trapped in the middle!
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Angry husbands non-relationship with my teenage son
piegirl99 · 19/01/2016 17:17
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