I've been single for a few years, never seem to meet a man that ticks all my boxes but am generally content with life. A couple of years ago a married work colleague (no DCs) who I have a lot in common with, think is quite cute, and have socialised with a lot outside work in a group, started to be more friendly towards me.
At first I thought he was just being matey, I work in a male dominated industry and have lots of bloke friends, but after a while I got the feeling he was testing me out as a potential OW as he made no secret of how 'bumpy' his marriage was. He never made a move on me and it was just a feeling i had so I backed away from the friendship because I felt a line was close to being crossed (possible EA coming up).
Move on 18 months and I watch him do the same to another colleague who recently transferred from another location. She didn't back off and now he is leaving his wife for her. It seems that his marriage was failing but he didn't have the guts to go until he had someone else lined up. A small part of me is now thinking well if he was unhappily married and just waiting for someone else to come along then maybe I shouldn't have backed off!
Good people of MN, please remind me that the way to find a new potential partner is not to move in on him whilst he is still married to someone else and that a guy who doesn't have the guts to leave his wife until he has found a new partner is a guy who is not worth having.
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tightywhities · 18/01/2016 14:06
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