Hi all, I don't know if I'm positing this In the right forum, sorry if I'm not!
Basically my DH is selfish in bed and I don't know how to change things. I feel like the sole focus of sex is to "get him there" with no consideration to "get me there" sometimes I do before him and that's fine but if I don't then we just stop and he makes no attempt to do anything more. (Trying not to be too descriptive with my words lol)
I feel like this is really really unfair, if I'm the one to initiate sex and then I'm left feeling disappointed it just makes me feel like why did I even do that? What was the actual point of it?
He's made an effort in the past don't get me wrong it's not every time but I'd say it's like 99% of the times I don't "get there" through sex he will just be ok with this....and I just feel like screaming.... WHAT ABOUT ME?!?
He also doesn't do forplay he just dives right in, Ive tried to talk about it so many times but it ends up where I feel bad for bringing it up and selfish.
We have a great relationship and im happy in other aspects it's just the sex thing that's getting to me now.
What would you guys do?
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DH being selfish, how to change this?
LittleLegs25 · 10/01/2016 16:39
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