I have an opportunity to buy and run a small business. The accounts look good and I believe they are genuine. I also believe there is scope for expansion with some hard work. It will not make me rich, but it will give me and the children a good standard of living and financial security.
At the moment I am stuck in London. I work, but though the money is good for my field it is not enough to be self sufficient. There is no chance of improving it significantly - my boss is lovely and pays me very well for what I do and I am in my fifties so there are not lots of alternatives.
I get maintenance for myself and my children from my very unpleasant exH to top up my current income. He delights in using it to jerk me around. I get frequent comments about how he is better then me because he earns more. He uses the money for power plays - it is never paid on time because he wants me to have to ask for it several times and every year he argues the toss about how much he should pay: Quote: "I agreed to pay you that because I felt guilty, [he cheated, multiply] but I don't feel guilty any more". We end up either in court or mediation every year over this. He is very wealthy. He remarried one of the OW.
I think I am pretty much at the point of selling my house and buying the business (which comes with accommodation) so that I can walk away from all this. I wouldn't give up on the maintenance for the children (which I bank for them anyway) because I can't see why they should lose out financially, but I would give up my claim on the basis that I never have to have any sort of contact with him again.
The children (teens) are not that keen on him, not helped by the fact that he leches all over his much younger wife in front of them which they find embarrassing . Youngest probably keenest and sees him about once a month.
Buying the business would mean uprooting me and the children about 200 miles away. Weekends are quite key for the business and I need to be present so I'm buggered if I am going to be facilitating access on weekends though he can have them for part of the school holidays if they want to go.
One of my DC is part way through Year 10 and moving part way through GCE's is obviously not ideal. I do wonder how different the syllabus can be though.
If I don't buy the business within the next few months (the plan would be to move at the end of this academic year), the opportunity simply will not be there again.
What would you do?
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Do I move my children 200 miles?
cupcakesandwine · 05/01/2016 22:37
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