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he left me, I'm pregnant

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GalwayGal123 · 04/01/2016 16:27

We had only been together 10months and I only found out two weeks ago I'm pregnant. When I told him, he said he didn't want it straight away. I do want it and I've made the decision to keep it, but now he has left me.
I understand he is shocked, scared etc but I thought he loved me and would always stand by my side.
But now I'm alone and scared and heartbroken.

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Hurr1cane · 04/01/2016 16:30

Hi, didn't want to read and run. I found out I'm pregnant today, it's going to be hard, but you have made the hardest decision already, and he made his decision to leave. You can do this on your own. I did with DS and it was easy. Don't worry x

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GalwayGal123 · 04/01/2016 16:36

Congratulations on your news Hurr1cane.
Thank you for your reply, I have a DS11 who I have always been a single mother too so I know I can do it alone too...I just don't want to.
I want him and I want him to want me and our baby.

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tribpot · 04/01/2016 16:41

Hi GalwayGal123 - sorry to hear that he made the decision to leave you. However, I don't think this was entirely unexpected given his comments leading up to now. It's time to start looking forward so congratulations again on your pregnancy, when is your due date? Have you joined the ante-club here for the month you're due?

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Hurr1cane · 04/01/2016 16:51

DS is 9 so we're pretty similar. You can't force him to want you, and chasing him will make it worse. I know it hurts though, and it will for a long time

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GalwayGal123 · 04/01/2016 16:55

Hi again Tribpot, thank you for your advice on my other post. I think I'm about 6 weeks, so due around the end of August.
I don't even really feel pregnant, with my son my boobs were sore and massive by this point and I felt sick all the time...but at the moment I've lost a few pounds and I don't feel anything but heartache.
I'm going to have to be strong, I feel really sorry for myself but I know that's no good for me, baby or my son.

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Northernnights · 04/01/2016 16:57

Oh what a shit Galwaygal. Do you think he is having a temporary hiccough or has he fecked off properly? Maybe your new DC and your DS will be better off with just you?
Congrats on the new baby.
(I saw Sharon Shannon in Monroes last week, she was brilliant)

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GalwayGal123 · 04/01/2016 21:26

I don't know if it's temporary or permanent, but I'm seeing sides to him I've never seen before.

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 04/01/2016 21:31

HE DID WANT IT!!!!!!!!. HE DIDNT FUCKING WANT IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
I highly doubt he was saying that when he took his pleasure.
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I hope the government are going to be as quick chasing him as they are hounding the resident parent.