I've posted here before about this man i'm now dating. In short, i seperated in July, met him in August for essentially a casual relationship but the first "date" went very well to the point where he said he wanted something more with me and will be exclusive. I liked him a lot and agreed. Sexual problem where he can't perform per usual with a condom on - i've seen the difference for myself several times. We had a pregnancy scare and he didnt think he needed to get himself sorted out. When i posted about this on mn the advice (i am sexually inexperienced) was that he's being selfish etc. I ended it mainly because he didnt think he needed to get help and also he seemed to be losing interest in me although he said this was due to his crazy work (which i know to be true).
Two weeks after i ended it he got back in touch said he was seeking help and is to see a therapist in the new year. He then also talked about the 'relationship' how much he liked me and the fact that he introduced me to some of his friends (but not close friends as they dont live near us) and sibling was because i meant a lot to him. Sibling, friends and colleagues all know me as his gf btw. Said his close friends were expecting me to be with him during the holidays.
We met to discuss way forward. He then reiterated he still really liked me but due to crazy work hours it may have seemed as though he wasnt interested and apologised for it.
Then - and here's where it gets confusing - he said we had agreed this was a casual thing and that he wouldnt be able to committ to a relationship due to his work committments for the time being. Said he didnt really want to introduce me to sibling and friends that time (it was at an event) but his sibling had made arrangements so he had to. Said he was going to ask me to come to his for NYE but as i'd said i have plans with my friends he didnt. Then he told me he couldnt afford the pricey dates we have each week and proceeded to tell me about his financial committments and debts (from a business).
Mixed signals or am i not seeing the actual message? If you can, tell me please.
It's too early for me to say whether i want a longterm relationship with him but i agreed to give it a go at the start so obviously there is a possibility. I am also sorting my divorce and just out of a 12/10 year relationship/ marriage so not sure i should be rushing into anything. A couple of my friends know about him and only because i accidently let slip after a particulary lovely restaurant visit - he knows this.
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help me decipher this...
Confusedfedup · 01/01/2016 16:16
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