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Do I just end it all?

(32 Posts)
stressedbutblessed15 Fri 01-Jan-16 13:57:19

My ex and I broke up in August after I found out he was a liar and he ended it with me very cruelly.
The problem is my best friend is his sister.
I think I need to end our friendship.
Last night she had a New Years party and I wasn't invited(he was there with new gf) I sat home alone.
She didn't speak at all no New Years text or anything.
I feel like a outcast now.
She mentions him all the time how he has moved on etc how he has lost weight.
Almost as if she is rubbing my nose in it.
She hated us being together.
She didn't invite me to a Halloween party as he was there.
Monday we were going for lunch and I was heading to her place and she said I had to stand on the corner in the rain as he was in her house and it would be too awkward.

I think I need a clean break from them all.

ManicPixieDream Fri 01-Jan-16 14:00:07

You do. He will always be her brother. It doesn't sound like she is being the sort of friend you need in your life. Get out there and meet other people. New year, new you. flowers

ImperialBlether Fri 01-Jan-16 14:00:20

Dump her. She's not a true friend. You're absolutely right; you need a break from anyone like this.

Happy new year - hope this one is much, much better for you.

flowers

loveyoutothemoon Fri 01-Jan-16 14:02:12

Did you send her a text?

TooSassy Fri 01-Jan-16 14:02:14

Of course you do.

I never understand people who don't understand the rules of breaking up. He's your ex. She's his sister. End of. Her loyalty lies with him as it should and no one wants the ex that isn't over the other ex around at parties. Sorry, they just don't.

I had an acquaintance that did this. They broke up. She continued to socialise in his (her exes) circle. It was painful to watch from afar. I never understand it.

Find a new best friend and cut them out your life.

stressedbutblessed15 Fri 01-Jan-16 14:02:22

Happy new year to you too.
I think I do.
It's bringing me down.
I know later she will post pics on Facebook although il try tell myself he is a shit and won't be long till he hurts the new gf.

lazymoz Fri 01-Jan-16 14:03:49

Yes I agree that your friendship sounds like it's over. As previous poster said he will always be her brother.

A break up isn't all about your ex, you also lose other people along the way too.

Happy new year! Hope 2016 brings you everything you wish for

stressedbutblessed15 Fri 01-Jan-16 14:04:51

It hurts as I've been a good friend to her.
Lent her money,took her on holiday,been there through her miscarriage.
I kind of feel disappointed at how she has made me feel bad.
Is it so bad of me to think she should of still invited me and just dealt with the awkwardness rather than knowing I'm home alone upset.
I don't give a shit about Him now,I know he is vile but I expected better from her.

stressedbutblessed15 Fri 01-Jan-16 14:06:23

No I didn't as she didn't invite me or acknowledge me.
I thought stuff her.

Tutt Fri 01-Jan-16 14:08:49

I'm married to my (what was) best friends brother, our friendship has suffered badly, this was because my husband and I feel out and he decided to confide in her, she obviously took his side.

Sad as it is but they will take their siblings side, mine was a 40 year friendship but I respect that she took sides and now have distanced myself.

It's horrible OP but you have to do what is best for you and being friends with her soons painful and detrimental to you.

Tutt Fri 01-Jan-16 14:09:20

*fell not feel bloody autoshite!

loveyoutothemoon Fri 01-Jan-16 14:09:38

Can you not keep your friendship separate? I can understand not wanting the pair of you in the same house. How did you know that she was going to have the party-Facebook?

stressedbutblessed15 Fri 01-Jan-16 14:11:38

Yes posting on Facebook.
Getting ready for party with friends and family.
She told me and said so what's your plans new year so I said I take it I'm not invited and she just laughed.

loveyoutothemoon Fri 01-Jan-16 14:14:48

At least she asked you and was seemingly bothered. I would've wished her a HNY. I think maybe you are over thinking this?

stressedbutblessed15 Fri 01-Jan-16 14:16:19

I honestly don't think I am.
She only asked as I kept dropping hints.
She has done nothing but gloat since we broke up.

Goingtobeawesome Fri 01-Jan-16 14:18:46

How can she have been your best friends if she hated you being with her brother? She's no friend now, rubbing it in about his new situation.

loveyoutothemoon Fri 01-Jan-16 14:18:52

Why would you keep dropping hints? In what way has she gloated?

stressedbutblessed15 Fri 01-Jan-16 14:24:04

When we first said we liked each other years ago she tried to stir trouble saying I said this he said that.
Tried to stop us running into each other.
Told him it was like incest.
Then now she is saying he is so happy,he has bought her a lovely present.
Happier than he has ever been etc

loveyoutothemoon Fri 01-Jan-16 14:26:16

Well in that case you are better off without. I wouldn't want to be friends with someone like that in the first place.

HolgerDanske Fri 01-Jan-16 14:27:29

Sorry, this person is/was your best friend? She doesn't sound as if she's a nice person at all.

You can find a much better best friend than that flowers

Time to move on, forget them both.

stressedbutblessed15 Fri 01-Jan-16 14:27:40

I think she thought she would loose me to Him.
Now that it's over she's pleased but I've seen her true colours too.

loveyoutothemoon Fri 01-Jan-16 14:28:43

Well that's just ridiculous. Do you have other close friends, how old are you?

lampshady Fri 01-Jan-16 14:30:10

She's sounds awful. Ditch and be happier for it.

stressedbutblessed15 Fri 01-Jan-16 14:31:14

I'm 26.
Yes I have 2 other close friends and other friends I socialise with.
She is quite bitter and sometimes that rubs off on me.
For example if her neighbour gets a new car she will say "how does that afford a new car,hope she crashes it,she's fat anyway etc etc
It can be draining.

magoria Fri 01-Jan-16 14:55:00

Well it seems a little like brother like sister.

He was a vile shit to you. She is being a vile shit to you.

Sack them both off and don't give either another thought.

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