Hi
I've read these boards a lot but never posted. I've had a rubbish year (18 months really) where I discovered my DH had been unfaithful. It was one time although he had been texting other people too - I am fairly confident of what he has done (I can't say how but I know that what he eventually told me is the truth). He has been diagnosed with MH problems and is on medication and attending counselling. He is also going to lose his job. I discovered his cheating at the beginning of the year just before I was due to have our second child.
I decided I wanted to try to make a go of it and we have agreed to go to counselling. However I just don't know if I have it in me. Everyone has been looking forward to NYE and I just feel sad. I feel sad that he has put us through all this. I feel sad that this is my life now and I'm with someone who obviously doesn't love me as much as I believe a husband should. But the thought of leaving terrifies me. I'm not worried financially and I have an amazingly supportive family so know I would be ok but I just never thought this would be my life. I swing between really wanting to make a go of it to wanting to leave. What makes its hard is that I felt we were so happy before I discovered this (the cheating had actually happened a couple of years ago - not when I found out).
How do you know when enough is enough? I honestly don't know what to do. Does it just become clear one day and you know what to do? Part of me is scared because we have been together so long and all of my friends are married with children so I know I will feel so out of place if we separate. But I also realise that's not a reason to stay. I did really love him and we still have moments of being happy but not very often. I know that is because I'm still so angry at what he has done so I do make it difficult for him.
I suppose what I'm asking is will I just know what to do eventually and I just need time to come to that decision?
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How do you know when enough is enough?
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KeepSmiling83 · 01/01/2016 08:07
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