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Is anyone awake? I need to talk while I'm stuck

(82 Posts)
Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 04:44:41

Name change check

delilabell Fri 01-Jan-16 04:47:47

I'm awake

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Fri 01-Jan-16 04:48:09

Up and on a break on my night shift, what's up?

Boglin Fri 01-Jan-16 04:51:50

I'm awake

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 04:54:53

Went out with OH for NYE. DS went to his dad's, it started off a nice night but he got drunk (which he very very rarely ever does, maybe twice in 2015)

Anyway we went to a restaurant after some drinks and it was nice at first, but then he started talking really loudly about the waiters and I asked him to stop, then he started talking about things I didn't want to talk about last night, really bad negative stuff, so I asked him again to change the subject but he wouldn't and just carried on.

We left the restaurant and I wanted to go home but I'd left all my things at his house including my keys so I had to go back there. All the way back he didn't talk to me at all. We got in and I said I would sleep on the sofa until a point where I could get a taxi (it's a really busy party town and there'll be none till like 7am) and he said fine and stomped around for a bit and went to bed.

I went to the toilet about an hour ago and he woke up and called me into his room, so I went in and we had a talk. I said I just didn't think he was happy with me, because every day he has something negative to say. He said that was bullshit and started basically listing my faults then shouting at me really aggressively . I said I was done talking and was going back downstairs at which point he went mad, grabbed his phone and I swear he twisted it up with his bare hands and threw it over my head, so I walked into the hall and he got up and threw the phone down again on the floor near me.

I ran downstairs and I've locked myself in the conservatory. I'm still stuck here till my taxi at 7. It's freezing.

He hasn't followed me down after doing that and has no idea I'm locked in here but I'm scared and I don't want to come out of here because he scared me.

I'm not usually this pathetic.

He's been really miserable all over Christmas, causing arguments over nothing and saying hurtful things. I've been patient with him as he said Christmas brings back bad memories but now I'm thinking i should have left him because now I'm in a situation I never thought I'd be in.

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 04:55:12

Sorry it took ages to type

justjodie92 Fri 01-Jan-16 04:56:28

Are you sure you can't get an earlier taxi?
Please take care

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 04:59:10

I rang when we got back. The one we used to get to his was pre booked and the earliest one was at 7am they said. It is a really big nightclub town and it was packed even in the place we were last night so I can see why. I didn't think it would be that late. I should have taken my keys out with me but I was worried about losing them and I didn't think I would need them

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 05:00:53

In context he has pushed me once before (the last time he was drunk which was months ago) I went with force into my furniture and really hurt myself which is why I'm frightened now. I thought it was totally out of character and he was gutted about it and I forgave him.

I feel so stupid now

Boglin Fri 01-Jan-16 05:01:22

Can you set up an uber account and see if there are any cars that can pick you up now? Everything else can be dealt with later but priority number 1 is for you to get home I think, if you don't feel safe at his.

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 05:02:10

What's uber?

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 05:02:29

I'm going to google it now sorry I should t have just asked I'm not usually this useless

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Fri 01-Jan-16 05:04:16

Don't feel stupid, you have nothing to feel stupid about. Is there a friend or family member you could call on?

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 05:05:07

It needs a card number to set up it says and all my cards are at home

Boglin Fri 01-Jan-16 05:05:43

It's like a taxi but there's an app that will show you cars in your area. I only found out about it this week myself and I don't know how the setup works so sorry if it's shit advice but maybe worth a try.

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 05:06:44

No. I've messaged my friends but they've all been drinking. I don't have any family where I live.

Thanks for talking to me by the way. I just need to get through these few hours then I'll be home and fine.

OldPodge Fri 01-Jan-16 05:07:24

How far away are you from home? Is there anyone else you can call to come get you?

Boglin Fri 01-Jan-16 05:07:48

Ah bugger. You are not stupid or useless, just in a shit situation. Is there an option to pay cash on pickup? Or a phone number so you can explain your situation?

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 05:07:56

It was worth a try Boglin thanks but my cards are at home. It's all silent upstairs from what I can hear so hopefully he's gone back to sleep.

Boglin Fri 01-Jan-16 05:08:25

Could DS dad pick you up?

OldPodge Fri 01-Jan-16 05:08:40

Sorry cross post.

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 05:09:52

It's about a 10/15 minute drive but walking wouldn't be safe as it would be through town, on my own, with a bag full of stuff in stupidly high heels when everyone's out and pissed. I did consider walking when we got back but thought better of it. But I just thought we were arguing and didn't expect him to go like that.

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 05:10:54

DSs dad lives a very long way away and DS has disabilities and health problems so I can't really ask him to drag DS out of bed for a long drive in the cold and dark just because I'm an absolute idiot.

Stuck1234 Fri 01-Jan-16 05:11:59

Someone else lives here with OH as he has a lodger. I keep hoping he'll come back drunk but realistically he'll have slept at his mates.

torontonian Fri 01-Jan-16 05:14:00

I was going to suggest Uber as well.
App for Android:
play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.ubercab

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