My boyfriend of 9 months got very drunk Christmas eve and proceeded to tell me he has been texting someone he met before me of the same dating site we met off as friends. He told me very drunk " omg you would be so jealous if i showed you a pic of her shes so pretty and big tits".Which to me incites jealousy i think ? He laughs saying i did her a year ago. . He wanted to know if id mind if he met her for coffee.Once sober Christmas morning he wonders why I'm upset .Crying i tell him i don't want to be with someone who texts other girls. He promised on his mums life nothing has been said inappropriate. She has a boyfriend and she knows about me. He couldn't understand why i got upset over that and wanted to draw a line under it saying "omg its not going to ruin xmas day is it ?" She is pretty he says but your prettier and she hasn't got big boobs i don't know why i said that . like i should be happy with that comment?! He also said it was a test ? A test for what ? Perhaps just trying to get out of what he said .He seems to have a few who text him kisses or such like. I've not yet been through his phone I'm too scared as to what i will find .I already start shaking just looking at his phone. My tummy's been churning since xmas eve. I'm not eating . He is so loving when he is with me and spends all his time off with me .Constantly wanting cuddles and telling me he loves me .But perhaps he was like that with every girl he has been with? You always think its your special thing but how many of us find out he was calling another girl special names you thought he only called you? So my head says end it my heart is still in love .What to do? Every time hes phone vibrates i feel ill .
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He couldn't understand why i got upset over that and wanted to draw a line under it
^ I'd dump him for this reaction alone. If he can't understand why you would be upset about that then either he is a manipulative liar or remarkably stupid. Yes, it needs a line drawing under it. By you dumping him just like you know you should.
Really, do you want to be one of those women who makes excuses and forgives her bf's appalling behaviour because he said she shouldn't be upset really and then he was extra nice for a while 
I don't think you do.
He managed to fuck up your Xmas then didn't he op
What a creepy little twat seriously how very dare he, dump him New Year's Eve let him know what it feels like. Hateful little twit 
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