My dp and I have had quite a lot of arguments lately. we have always been very much the sort of people who will have it out if there is an issue but I think lately is gone beyond that. Prime example is today.
We got into an argument about him not pulling his weigt around our home, he will look after himself, ie iron his own clothes, tidy away his own stuff but has to be confronted with his laziness before he will tackle anything else, hovering, cleaning bathroom etc. he is truly terrible with money, will always afford a few drinks with a friend but ask for money to fill the oil tank and he wont have it, is almost 50 years of age and cant save £10 per week. he will comment on my weight, my depression (I'm mad apparently as normal people don't take medication and I need to see someone about my mood swings)
WE each have one child, mine is 8 his is 17. His dd is very volatile at times, has had great issues in the past and has caused quite a few problems in my home too - general attitude, no please, or thank you - going out switching off phone (albeit at age 14) although the bad manners persist. After one to manyrun ins with her I have maintained a polite distances. I will acknowledge her at Christmas, birthdays etc but wont go out of my way.
I try as much as possible to keep my own child away from her as I find her to be a poor role model. I have tried in the past over and over with his dd but I get no where and I just don't have the energy anymore. Her DM harassed me quite severely in the past some I'm wondering if that is was is prompting her behaviour over the years but honestly I'm just done worrying about it.
I think I want ot end things, nothing I do seems to be right and he is saying the same about me, that I'm constantly picking at him. I don't feel I am, I just want an equal partner, he may cook the odd breakfast at weekends but I do the rest, pay for the rest and feel I'm banging my head against a brick wall with it all. I'm sat here in tears and just feel so down and low about it.
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fedup16 · 30/12/2015 16:17
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