just trying to put it all in perspective, need advice please.
DS is 47 who lives in cyprus.
DD2 is 49 who lives in uk.
DD1 is 53 who lives in Australia
DD2 has endured mental health issues for decades.
Frequently imagining "slights" against her, resulting in her instantly going NC with family sometimes for 2/3/4/ years then coming back as though nothing happened.
Serious depression, threats of suicide, I spent decades walking on egg shells around her, afraid to send her back into her dark mental health.
DD2 hadn't spoken to DD1 for over 14 years, saying she hated her, even ranting at me that if I spoke to DD1, she would never speak to me again.
The same as for DS, she has refused to speak to him for at least 6 years .
Then, out of the blue, DD2 contacted DD1, saying "she was sorry" and it's all okay again, she has re written the past.
DD2 still refuses to acknowledge DS or myself, yet even sent Christmas presents to DD1.( but has never once asked even if I am alive or dead)
There were no arguments which resulted in DD2 cutting contact with me 5 years ago, in fact we had been together the previous day and everything was lovely.
Last night I didn't sleep, feeling so alone, 3 DC, yet we have not spent a Christmas as a complete family for over 20 years, and doubt if we ever will again.
It seems that one by one DD2 goes NC with each sibling, after that it becomes "my turn", leaving me distressed/sad/confused and heartbroken.
Just feel so numb this morning.
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needtothinkclearly · 28/12/2015 10:29
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