I'm new. I just had to join as I'm going mad. I found out on christmas eve that my beloved partner has 2 years left to live. I'm broken. He's my best friend. My whole world. We had the happiest, easiest relationship. I just don't know how to be without him. I feel like my life didn't even begin until we met. The thought of life without him by side is unbearable. Seeing him in such shock and pain makes me die inside. I'm trying to be positive in front of him that maybe something will be discovered within the time frame to fix him, but it's so hard. I worry about letting him down. Not being strong enough to give him a happy 2 years. We're only late 30's. I don't know how any of this is possible. I feel so lonely already.
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Elizabethreallyismissing ·
26/12/2015 14:20
From a practical point of view make sure all the legal side is squared away! Still get married or put wills in place!
Then make sure you talk to each other make sure you tell each other how much you love each other & then try to make the most of the time you have together!
I lost my partner of 14 years very suddenly, he had a heart attack & died in the middle of the night, he was 39! I would have given anything, anything at the time for some notice that he was going! Time to tell him how happy he made me and how much I loved him!
I'm so sorry for you & your partner! 
Themodernuriahheep ·
26/12/2015 15:59
Summon, it's shit. But hold on. Enjoy the little things you can, the jokes you make in adversity. Enjoy making him a cup of tea. Create the celebrations of him and of both of you.
One our neighbours who has multiple cancers was told he had two weeks in Feb. He's v old, but here he still is and we've celebrated his birthday with friends, etc etc.
And, this sounds callous but isn't, think what you want to use the remaining time for.
Do you want to be married before his time is up, to proclaim publicly you are each other's in law as well as in fact? You can do it very very fast.
Get him to make a will. If he doesn't, it is dreadful for his next if kin to sort out. ( won't be you unless you have legal standing). Draw yours up at the same time. You can always leave your possessions to him, if you predecease him, ie if there is a cure or you get run over by a bus, that way it's a joint act of love.
Do you want to go away somewhere special to you, together? If you have longer than expected, you have more time to build on.
The hospital will have counselling. Take it up. You will need people in RL, outside the immediate family.
Thinking of you. 
inlectorecumbit ·
27/12/2015 15:14
If it is 2 years ( and it may be a lot more) make them count. Get up, put on a happy face and start making some memories.
Why not get married, do things you both have always wanted to do, yes there will be up and down days but in a strange way you are luckier than some whose loved ones dies without warning, without having the chance to make memories and tell the other person that they are loved.
So although my heart breaks for you l urge you to start making some happy memoried
no time like the present
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