OP I agree with your perception.
I think it's a mistake to take it too personally, as if it's "your fault"?
Most women (whatever they look like) find that they are asked out by weird guy on street more than someone they have anything in common with!
- Some men haven't got loads of prospects so feel they have to be more "forthright"?
"Weird guy on street" hasn't got many opportunities to talk to women, so as soon as "anyone" becomes present they pounce.
I've been to meetups where there are one or two single guys who seem incredibly lonely and will latch onto any vaguely presentable single woman who turns up and bombard them with contact (before being rejected, then they get even more desperate).
Whereas an ok looking, socially adjusted bloke will probably be a bit more laid-back as he will have lots of opportunities to connect with women, so can be more patient
(even if he finds a woman attractive and could potentially be interested in a monogamous relationship, he's not going to think you're the last woman on earth or act or be desperate?
The weird blokes who will be surfing the Net looking for tips on how to "pull" or "get" a woman and who think romcoms are real life are more visible due to that).
- Just be polite and disengage - don't be rude but equally don't feel you have to compensate for not being attracted to someone by being super-nice (it's draining to have male "friends" who secretly fancy you and who aren't actually your friends, just passive-aggressively hanging about waiting for their chance).
- On this note, focus less on who "asks you out" and more on just engaging with people. Go where your interests are and be yourself, not just random places.
Of my ex and current DP (both of who were CRAZY about me), both sort of "soft-sold" their way in a low pressure courtship, rather than saying "do you want to DATE me?".
So started off with us both coming up with shared activities to do together or chatting at joint events.