Hi everyone,
I recently left my husband a few months ago to start a new life with my lover. Everything seems to be going smoothly and both of us are looking forward to our bright future ahead.
My main concern is that i received an email from my ex husband last week asking me to come home to look after the animals (3 cats) and his nan (who is now ill). I was with my ex husband for 8 years and before leaving him we bought a new house and it was something i always wanted. I wont go in to detail but the main reason i wanted a fresh start was to get away from him due to his controlling behaviour / mental abuse. Because i left, it meant he has less income to pay the bills, and says he may lose the house and also may need to put the animals in to care (which i love dearly). He also told me his working longer hours to try to balance his payments. His nan has fallen ill and he also needs me to take care of her, and ive known her since ive known my ex husband.
Im in a dilemma and need some advise about the email he sent me. He wants me to go down and live with him for a 'few months' and in return he would give me a 'good' divorce. Main reason is for me to take care of his nan and the animals while he tries to sort himself out.
Im not sure whether this is a good idea and whether its fair on my lover. If i do go down, im scared if i get confused and whether my ex husband somehow convinces me to stay and work on the broken relationship.
I do not love my ex husband but he does get inside my head at times and he can read me like a book. Im very fragile and stressed out of this whole situation. I just want to move on with my new lover. Im scared incase if i dont go down and do what he wants, then he may get nasty. If his nan dies, and i didnt go down, i may regret it and again my ex husband will never forgive me. Of course if his nan was in hospital i will visit but he says that she is 'ill'.
I have replied to him saying if i go down it would be on these terms, to go down 1-2 days a week to look after his nan, and animals, but he replied to say this is not good enough and then he repeated his first email saying it needs to be a 'few' months.
Please help me. Im sick and stressed. I just want to put this to bed.
xx
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Ex husband wants me to look after his nan for good divorce.
jojo9999 · 17/12/2015 01:50
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