DH was tidying the living room this morning and while bending over has hurt his back. He was screaming and limping around, scaring DC and I.
Then sat there with his head in his hands and wouldn't speak to us to say he was ok. Then disappeared off to the bedroom and lay down, still without saying a word. All the time I was asking shall I call a chriropractor? Do you need a doctor? Painkillers? No answer.
I just went into our bedroom with the youngest to see if DH is okay and he's lying in the dark. Youngest is restless and doesn't want to be on my lap so is squealing and DH starts a tirade at me about how the house is so messy, how the DC's are so messy, how it's all my fault because if I had tidied up before he did, he would have never hurt his back.
He has form for blaming me for anything he can, especially in these sorts of drama filled scenarios where he is screaming and crying and "injured." It's especially effective because I feel that I cannot stand up for myself because he is the one who is hurt or the victim.
I hate being so cynical to put injured in inverted commas, but I want the kind of relationship where we can have a mature discussion about things rather than DH manipulating situations where I am forced into the position of the bad guy.
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stuckinthemiddlewithpoo · 06/12/2015 13:03
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