My feed
Premium
Please
or
to access all these features

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Relationships

My son said he wanted to commit suicide today

108 replies

derxa · 02/12/2015 03:09

How can I help him?

OP posts:
Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:12

Anyone out there?

OP posts:
Report
FrancisdeSales · 02/12/2015 03:13

Did you take him to the ER or doctor?

Report
FrancisdeSales · 02/12/2015 03:13

How old is he OP?

Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:14

He called the doctor and police and ambulance came. He's 24 I'm 350 miles away but my DH is with him

OP posts:
Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:17

I feel so guilty because he has been feeling stressed since he left uni He feels guilty because we spent so much money on his education

OP posts:
Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:18

Are you still there Francis? Thanks for replying

OP posts:
Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:22

I need a hand hold

OP posts:
Report
yakari · 02/12/2015 03:27

I can hand hold. Have you spoken to your DH since he got there?
If they have medical help that's the best way to get him support but must be awful for you waiting so far away

Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:29

Bless you My son is at home but not feeling any better. I feel so guilty

OP posts:
Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:30

yakari I just want to ramble on I've been up here sorting out my father's estate for months

OP posts:
Report
yakari · 02/12/2015 03:32

Have they offered follow up support? If not I'd be getting your DH to investigate what can be done locally.
how about you - any chance of sleep or will it be a night of hot tea and curled up on the sofa?

Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:32

I just want to talk

OP posts:
Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:33

He's going on ADs and I've encouraged him to seek counselling. He's not good at talking about his feelings like all the men in the family

OP posts:
Report
yakari · 02/12/2015 03:34

Well tell me about your DS as much as you wish obviously. What's he doing since he left Uni?

Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:35

I feel so completely selfish I should have been there for him

OP posts:
Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:36

He's not been doing anything He did a degree and a masters and got himself completely burnt out

OP posts:
Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:38

My DH talked to him for 4 hours today DS cried a bit and hugged DH and said he loved him Maybe this is a turning point

OP posts:
Report
yakari · 02/12/2015 03:39

Distance always make things harder - can you get to see him yourself? Or can he come home for a bit?

Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:41

He is at home and my other DS are going back in a couple of days My father died and I'm at his farm

OP posts:
Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:42

I'm just in a state of shock

OP posts:
Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:44

Should I get this thread deleted?

OP posts:
Report
yakari · 02/12/2015 03:44

Ah I see. God you've all had a rough year of it. Hopefully you don't need to stay at the farm long and can head back (I'm a city girl so would be of nouse to anyone on a farm!)

Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:46

There's a flock of sheep but I've got a good shepherdess to look after them

OP posts:
Report
yakari · 02/12/2015 03:48

Well
Hopefully you can get home tomorrow and just scoop him up in a big hug.

Report
derxa · 02/12/2015 03:51

Yes that's all I want to do Bless you for talking to me It's a hellish topic and any mother's worst fear

OP posts:
Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.