I was seeing some friends this weekend. One of them is dating a guy (separated from his wife, waiting for the two years to get divorced). This person has a DC with his STBXW.
I asked how it was going and she proceeded to go off on a rant. (She has been seeing him about 7/8 months).
- That she hasn't met his DC. And that it is his controlling ex that isn't allowing it.
- That she hardly sees him as a result because he is with his daughter on most weekends.
- That quite selfishly she is looking forward to having a child in her life (since she hasn't had one herself).
- That the mother needs to relax and just 'get over it and get a life'. She commented that the woman has just put her life on hold for the child and it is unhealthy.
- she is starting to demand that introductions are made and that 'he put his foot down'
We've been good friends for years but I was a little like this at the end of it.
I know there are two sides to every story and I absolutely made sure my hackles didn't rise (primarily because I am a divorcing mum too). But this perspective absolutely floored me.
Is this perspective a reality shared by many women who take up with a divorced man with children? Because who thinks they have the right to judge and make demands in this way?????
Opinions welcomed. This is a world I will have to navigate eventually.