Due to my upbringing (ie a bullying father and enabling, narcissist, moody mother), I am a complete people pleaser.
I hate disapproval from anyone. Even strangers in the street who seem annoyed if I won't move out of the way for them. I can't stand the idea of someone not liking me, even if they've been awful to me.
I had a miserable time at school as obviously being a people pleaser, users latched onto me and just treated me like crap. I ended up doing all kinds of awful things to be 'liked'.
Even as an adult in my thirties it still bothers me if someone doesn't like me and I do go out of my way so as not to displease anyone. Which is fine but then I get friends getting cross with me when I really cannot do as they say/want, because they always expect it of me.
How can I stop this! I have tried counselling and CBT. They were helpful but I think the cure for this lies within me but how do I bring it out?
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How can I stop people pleasing/caring if people like me or not?
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MyDrinkYourDrink · 24/11/2015 14:11
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