Hi. Sorry this is my first ever post but needed to ask people if they think i'm acting crazy or not?
Me & my partner have been together 5 years, have 2 year old together.
It's always been rocky but we've managed.
He started a new job a year ago and since he's become a bit off an arse. He was always arsey but it's gotten worse.
He's lazy and doesn't help me much. Anyway - The other week I found he had credit cards, loans and overdrafts I had no idea about. Accumulating debts behind my back. We talked, all was forgiven. I then found a week later he was using Tinder as it was in his recently closed apps. He was sat next to me at the time. We spoke, he said he'd been using it (alongside another app) to see who liked him. And that he had not been talking to other women/men.
Since working at this new place he seems to be very disrespectful of women and keeps constantly rating women out of 10. "But you shouldn't worry because you're a 9" - his reaction when I had an issue with this.
I found 10 days before our daughters birthday he'd asked a mate if they could go get stoned together. This happens to also have the week where we had to borrow cash to buy birthday presents and do a food shop.
Last week he went out drinking, never had an issue with him going out. This week, he went out again, again no problem. However, a few days prior he was begging me for cash to cover our rent (he wanted the child benefit). Yet he can still afford to get drunk?
When he came in from his latest night out I found his friend had drove them both home and was over the limit. Also my partner had been controlling the gears to the car whilst in this state. Then he told me some girl had been over to their table that night, crawling over all the men and sucking their tongues... And my partner got pictures of it. This woman also offered to suck my partner off.
This night had told me he'd be home after 1 drink. So i kept our daughter up to see him for an hour. Six hours later he walks through the door.
Because i've expressed there's a problem with his behaviour I'm a 'crazy bitch', 'fucking stupid' and 'no fun'.
He's refusing to apologise for hurting my feelings.
He's making me feel like I'm crazy. And he's making it feel like its all in my head and my fault there's issues with our relationship.
Thoughts?
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Making me feel crazy
LouisaCee · 23/11/2015 15:15
Bloody hell, why are you putting up with this? It's shockingly bad. Don't you want far better? If you do, you must leave this relationship and start anew.
My DH has just brought me a glass of 
and is now happily cooking our dinner. Then we will have a nice evening together watching The Affair and the Jungle then go to bed. No debts. No wild nights out. Then again, he's 43 and I didn't know him when he was 23 he might have been a dick back then
Eh? Is this a serious question? Why would you be confused after so many instances of lying/bad behaviour? It must be obvious that he is not a nice person. Ltb 
The other week I found he had credit cards, loans and overdrafts I had no idea about. Accumulating debts behind my back. We talked, all was forgiven.
I simply don't understand this.... You talked and all was forgiven? That sounds so easy, but he lied to you, the debts are still there, it doesn't sound like you have a way of resolving the situation. How can it be so simple as just forgiving him?
That alone needs significant work - never mind all the rest of your post. 
for you and your dd
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