DP and I have been together 8.5 years.
We are both a little under 30 so I like to think young and spritely.
We have one child who is 4.
We now have sex one or two times a month. It's been a steady decline since I was pregnant. And as I started snoring when pregnant, we started sleeping in different beds. Also a steady decline from him leaving once he couldn't sleep to him starting the night in his own bed.
We used to be very sexual and now we are not. He used to be very sociable and always going out with friends. Now he prefers my company and defines himself as anti sociable. Basically, he is saying he's completely changed as a person. We've been together so long he just isn't interested in sex. He was concerned and spoke to his friends. They told him that he was silly to be concerned because after so long together, they all rarely have sex too. However, I know he watches porn. If he has a sex drive for porn , why doesn't he have a sex drive for me? I asked him and he sticks with the belief that we have been together too long and it's not going to be how it was. He says he still finds me attractive but that our relationship is now on a much deeper level and he'd rather have that then a good sex life.
I'd rather have this to but I miss the passion and I feel it's me not him.
Is he right that most relationships go this way or do we need to change things?
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WhimsicalWinnifred · 18/10/2015 08:24
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