We have an 8 month baby. Unmarried. I'm just getting fed up now. We've been together 4 years and I'm realising lately that I don't think he is someone I want to spend the rest of my life with.
today was my dads funeral. I left partner with baby. He handled things fairly well when I got back I guess. But then this evening he came into the bedroom ans said "my lizard is dead because of you, because you didn't turn the heated light on." Lizard wasn't dead and wasn't my fault about the lights but still blamed it on me and called me a lazy cunt.It was a misunderstanding about the lights. I called him into living room to discuss this and said I was upset with how he handled situation and he said are you done? I got upset and said sometimes I felt like yes we're getting somewhere and then suddenly I feel like you don't give a shit. He said no I don't and walked out the room. I have finally accepted my dads death and now I'm crying over my parter too! When my dad was in hospital he helped out by taking days off work to look after our baby but when I got home one night after I said my goodbyes to my dad he barely looked me in the eye and offered no hug. I even hinted that he should but no such luck. Ended up crying on phone to friend. Feel like I have no emotional support from him which I think is crucial in a relationship.
We've always been relaxed, had fun together and mostly I'm happy. He's always been impossible to talk to though. He will never row with me or express himself. Just shuts off and neglects me emotionally. Can be nasty and make me feel like he does not give a shit about me. It's just to me the bad times tip me over the edge. And even days he comes home from work, can't speak for being too tired (he works no more than the average man and his job is no more tiring than an average job I.e not a doctor for example) and when he's tired there is literally no speaking to him. It's like this several times a week and it gets me down. Sometimes I just feel we're too different but I accept it but what's happened since my dads passing to me seems unforgivable. Like wow he really does not give a shit. Should I end it?
and if I do then I'm a single mother and I can't believe I feel like this 8 months into my baby's life :,(
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should I end it? unforgiveable
jessica3692 · 08/10/2015 21:36
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