I don't want to bleat on in self-pity...but I am feeling pretty low tonight.
I know it's been said before by many others, but the one thing missing from my life is a relationship. I'm 30. I've had long-term relationships in the past. I don't feel unable to be in a relationship. I have friends. I enjoy my job. I'm busy 90% of the time either meeting a friend, doing my own thing, seeing family or online dating. When I'm on dates they (so far!) have all requested a second date, and I enjoy the company, but there's nobody I want to commit to. What I'm trying to say is that I put myself out there as much as I can (aside from the classic 'take up a hobby' advice - I genuinely don't have a particular hobby and when I'm not with other people I'm watching my soaps, reading or shopping).
But I'm lonely. And tonight I cried all the way back from work because despite being around people the majority of my waking hours, despite having lots and lots to do, and great connections with friends, I am lonely. I am, dare I say it, happier and content in a relationship than I am when I'm alone.
I am starting to resent the advice I often see on here about 'embrace this time of your life' etc, because I HAVE done that. Yes, my life is great in mnay many ways. I'm aware of that and I appreciate aspects of it usually. But sometimes the lonliness is too much. At the end of a night everyone goes home to someone. They cook for someone else. They put their kids to bed. They have 'family days.' They are building relationships with a husband that hopefully last for life. All the while, I am just doing things 'for me.' That has no feeling of deep fulfillment in the same way as a relationship.
I don't know why I am left on the shelf...(maybe a bit dramatic but I feel sad tonight). I've never cheated and I'm independent but also crave that connection with someone again. I don't think I'm particularly unusual, so why can't I have what everyone else seems to have.
I'm terrified this is it for me now.
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Cried all the way home tonight and just see a life of loneliness ahead
feelingroughlove · 07/10/2015 19:52
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