Toxic MIL rant.

[Pollyputthekettleon45]

MIL is toxic, I have posted many times about her, we have been no contact for 2 years, if not a bit longer.

She texts on DH on his birthday to lay down some more emotional blackmail wish him Happy Birthday.

She texted yesterday comparing his love as a parent to hers, aswell as a few other bits.

DH is ignoring it. However it's really made my blood boil!
She has been vile, cruel and downright selfish towards DH and tbh the DCs and myself. He would never in a million years treat his DCs the way she has treated him.

It goes over DHs head and just moves on. It's given me the rage. I can't say this DH because it's done and over and don't want to drag it all up.
But argh! Just needed to get it out.

It's coming closer to Christmas and we've both had multiple friends requests on social media from DHs side. Then she texts. Just feels like a build upto something

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

I would ask the provider to block her number from his phone. May I ask why he has not done this to date?.

With regards to your last paragraph I would continue to ignore the pressure from the "flying monkeys". I would also consider blocking them or removing yourselves entirely from social media.

[Starkswillriseagain]

Why doesn't he block her number or change his?

Are you NC with the people requesting? They could be trying to get you to reconcile.

[Pollyputthekettleon45]

I don't know. I think it's more of a 'just incase' something happens. He doesn't care, he can read a text and that's it. It doesn't phase or bother him, he knows she lies and the way she acts isn't normal.

He is due an upgrade soon so might get a new number then.

We don't see any of DHs side. His dad died when he was young. MILs side don't speak to her. So that leaves step FIL's side, who she has played the victim.

[Starkswillriseagain]

Have you been honest with them? People can only play the victim if unchallenged.

[Pollyputthekettleon45]

Yes we have. Over and over again. It falls on deaf ears. She doesn't know what she's done wrong and she's heart broken

All we asked was an apology but its always backhanded and ends up our fault.

[Starkswillriseagain]

Not honest with her, with the relatives who she plays the victim too. They might be less likely to bother you if they know both sides and if they don't, fuck them.

[Hissy]

Start taking back control here. Set Fb to prevent friend requests for a start, make yourselves unsearchable.

If your h genuinely IS ok/unbothered by it all, take his leave and try to let it go. Ultimately these people can't break you. They are and have nothing.

I get how powerless and vulnerable you feel, but you are strong, your DH too, and they are the ones that are panicking. Breathe

[Pollyputthekettleon45]

She and FIL are blocked on mine and DHs Facebook. I will stop friend requests now :)

I know exactly why it's started now, she wants to play the doting grandma for Christmas. I'm sure she did it this time last year.

There is honestly so much she's done it would be very hard to explain over a FB message why we don't see her.
She denies things or twists things round.

I have posted before but I'm on a name change. I had PND with my first DC, lost a lot of weight and was really ill. She told people I had an eating disorder. When I confronted her she said she didn't say it, then she didn't mean it and it's my fault because I'm so thin

[HoHeyChick]

Block from fb and your mind. Arrange xmas for you all as soon as you can - go abroad if you have to.

Eliminate all avenues of chances for her to be able to rail road your plans - make some. That's what I do