I am not sure if anyone remembers me. I had a thread about 19 or 20 months ago because my Fiance disappeared and wouldn't explain why. He just changed overnight and went from being lovely to being horrible and he left me in a hotel room with my sick child.
I asked for my thread to be deleted back then because I was so upset and in so much shock I gave away too much personal information and someone pm'd me to say they had found me online, but back then everyone was so great and helped me so much. I remember mathanxiety and garlic and sorry to anyone else (my memory has not worked so well since all this).
So I am a while on from all of this but I just feel like giving up. I am so tired of fighting so hard for so long and just want to curl up and go to sleep. I would never hurt myself (could not do that to my family) but I sometimes sit for hours staring at a knife or a busy road and the idea of it all just being gone in a second seems so peaceful. I don't want anyone to worry for me, I would never do it. I just feel that lost.
I do try. I do everyhting. I went to counselling for a year and a half. It got me through. I generally put on a happy face and sometimes even feel happy but there is just this black empty space inside that I can;t ever seem to escape from.
I miss him. I never properly understood why he did what he did. We did get back together once or twice but only for a few days and he never went back to who he was or ever gained normalcy. It was like he just lost all his love for me in one day and he could never explain.
There was never another woman and his life did not get happier after what he did. He actually became a heavy drinker at first and seems to go off the rails a bit. He's now skinny, lives a quiet life and is on anti depressants.
The last conversation I had with him he told me he just stopped loving me but he could not say when or why or why he had to leave in such a ball of flames and cause so much destruction on the way out the door.
I had to live with him being so viscious. He turned people against me and told me it was all my fault.
He'd always been the big love of my life and the person I loved and trusted the most. I never throught he would or could ever harm me, he was so protective of me and kind, so I struggle in my midn with it all.
I think the day he stopped loving me and decided to harm me, was the day I stopped loving myself and absolutely nothing can ever regain that.
I'm not asking for advice I suppose. Just feel so tired. I thought time would bring me answers and it never did.
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Does anyone remember me?
doesnayoneremember · 06/10/2015 17:34
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