Name change.
Recently posted about this. In a nutshell. Mil and sil very close relationship. 18 months ago me and oh went nc with his dsis she had basically ignored our dd for first year of her life then went mad at oh for not being there for his dn's since having his own child/ instead of discussing it she was nasty towards us at gathering snide comments etc, on social media and then shouting at oh- texting nasty msgs you get the drift.
Anyway we decided enough was enough and cut her out. Mil was not happy with this and for the last 18 months made comments about patching things up and that we should apologise to dsis (even though she is blatantly the one in the wrong to rest of family.
Fast forward to recent times when we told mil that we wouldn't have dsis at our wedding mil went mad shouting at me even though I'm seven months pregnant, shouting at oh all in front of our dd. when we told her to calm down she wished that she was dead for all the stress we are causing her. Just a torrent of manipulation and nastiness ie she wouldn't come to the wedding unless sis invited- all until we all but cancelled the wedding- I was in bits. :(
She called oh a couple days later and he told her she shouldn't have shouted at me like that in general but esp when I'm pregnant- she said she would call and apologise, he said leave it for a couple days as bingo really stressed out about it all.
I didn't receive apology.
We decided that we would go ahead with wedding on our terms- she did come and she completely ignored me on the day and made a few choice comments before leaving. Luckily we still had a nice day anyway.
Since then I've told dh that I can't be around her ATM its too raw and feel like she treats me like shit- if he wants to see her fine but I can't right now.
She has asked why Im avoiding her dh said I was still upset with the things she said before wedding and that she should have apologised- she said she wasn't going to be told when she could and couldn't apologise so she had decided not to do it at all.
Does this all sound like toxic controlling behaviour to you? It seems black and white to me but need detached responses.
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Situation with mil-toxic?
Bingolala · 01/10/2015 19:15
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