My parents are being such a nightmare about my new partner!
As i still live at home, it is a little bit harder to avoid their digs.
I am 25 years old and my partner is 20 years old. (male)
My dad is very traditional and seems to think this will not work. I have heard several comments from my dad including the following:
' why is he not out doing studenty things?'
'you have a biological ticking clock- why don't you use it?'
' you're going to get heartbroken, he's not ready to settle down to one woman'
'whilst you're with him, your wasting your time, when you could be out finding a husband'
'you're at different stages of your lives, you will be looking at buying a house and having children in the next 5 years, he won't be)
He also made a comment about how he is good looking therefore; will probably leave me for a younger woman in the future (OUCH!!!!!!) (WTF!!!)
He also went on a bit of a rant, about my mothers friend who has a partner 10 years younger and how she is also asking for heart break (as far as i can see, they are very happy!)
It's making it really difficult for me and I feel very uncomfortable discussing it because i can't be bothered with the sly digs.
I personally do not have a problem with the age gap, the only thing that slightly concerns me is the fact he is not guaranteed to find a job in the location we are currently living in after graduation and he is considering doing a masters at a different university.
The most irritating thing, is the fact my brother has a girlfriend who is 4 years younger, but because it is the other way round, it is seemed as a 'perfect' age gap grrr. My father also seems to jump the gun a bit and is already talking about the potential of them getting married and having children. (my brother is 27 and they have been together 1 year) this makes me a little bit bitter, the fact he can't be happy for me also, as awful as that sounds!!)
Does anyone have any advice how to handle my parents? I find myself lying to avoid the hassle, when i go to see him, but i know this is not the right approach! (i also feel like a naughty teenager!) I know they are only thinking of what's best for me and obviously they are very over protective, however it is really beginning to cause me some stress!
Thank you :)
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How to deal with parents who disagree with choice of partner?
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Ellie891 · 28/09/2015 15:38
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